Re: Individuality
agreed
Jao Aq, Hum ney Ap ka space Ap ko lota deya…
Kush raho..
agreed
Kia hum is agree pey "disagree" ker saktey hain?
aap kee jo marzi hey - 
wohi karain 
Iraj, ap ko Ghusa Kab ata hey?
take it bad or good
bhut kum aata hey
aur
jub aata hey tu bhut ziyada aata hey
phir ap kia kertii ho?
Re: Individuality
kuch bhe nahin - kion keh bhut ziyada aa jata hey
and if i do something that would be extremely disastrous
so i try to keep control on my nerves
but why are u asking all that ? 
wesey hee Maloomat key liya…
Ap nerves ko kesy control kertee hain, Hamarey science teacher kehtey hain, nerves hamain control kertee hain? Ap Jadoogerni ho kia?
Re: Individuality
LB I agree completely with you...you ALWAYS need to have your own personal SPACE...even with family (parents) and your spouse. Because there are some things you just wanna keep to urself.
main pagal hoon
aap bhut achay hain - :k: good babu you are good @ flooding
How many of you believe in your personal space after marriage?
And how many think that everything should be shared after marriage?
Personaly speaking I believe in no matter how much you love someone or are close to, but some part of you still belongs to you, and it is sancrosanct. Nobody is allowed in it, even your spouse. The day I will give up that small part of me, is the day I die.
Agree/Disagree? Why?
AGREED! i dun like chipku ppl. or ppl who ask 2 many qs. even if it is fiance or stupid annoying in-laws.
I believe its what kind of culture you are more accustomed to, and influences you have. Eastern culture is always thinking everything in collective term and in western culture the individual comes first. let me give you an example;
In Pakistan they say shaadi do insaano mein nahin do khandanoon mein hoti hai hence when somebody is getting married the whole tubur is involved from the time to first see the bride till the time she is actually sitting on her bed on suhaag raat. On the other hand in west when people decide to get married they just invite everyone else on their wedding day.
Maybe sub consciously I am influenced by the western culture (I would hate to think so). It was just an observation on my part that whenever my wife thinks/says she is referening to *hum. *On the other hand for me its always *mein. *Its not that I do not love my family, its just the way I am wired.
I am trying to figure out my own mentality and see if I am doing something wrong. I do think this mein thing is important to keep my sanity, dignity and individuality. When it becomes hum *the *mein is gone forever. Do you think that keeping this *mein *thing alive is worth it.
I believe its what kind of culture you are more accustomed to, and influences you have. Eastern culture is always thinking everything in collective term and in western culture the individual comes first. let me give you an example;
In Pakistan they say shaadi do insaano mein nahin do khandanoon mein hoti hai hence when somebody is getting married the whole tubur is involved from the time to first see the bride till the time she is actually sitting on her bed on suhaag raat. On the other hand in west when people decide to get married they just invite everyone else on their wedding day.
Maybe sub consciously I am influenced by the western culture (I would hate to think so). It was just an observation on my part that whenever my wife thinks/says she is referening to *hum. *On the other hand for me its always *mein. *Its not that I do not love my family, its just the way I am wired.
I am trying to figure out my own mentality and see if I am doing something wrong. I do think this mein thing is important to keep my sanity, dignity and individuality. When it becomes hum *the *mein is gone forever. Do you think that keeping this *mein *thing alive is worth it.
yes i do think its worth it..ABSOLUTELY! i was getting annoyed with hte whole inlaw tabur alwayz in my business, in my face...if i dont get my privacy, even after marriage i will go at least parlty insane. so no ur not the only 1 who feels like this. mayb its also bcs i was obrn and raise din the west. its not like i hate ppl(i luv my family nd i liked soem of my inlaws), its just htat i dun like it when they never leave me alone. i even started getting pissed off a little when my fiance alwayz kept calling me like so many times in 1 day..nd then kept demanding to know where i am n wht im doing nd if i didnt phone for couple dayz y i didnt? mayb im just not used 2 this immense invasion of privacy!
In Pakistan they say shaadi do insaano mein nahin do khandanoon mein hoti hai hence when somebody is getting married the whole tubur is involved .
yeah as long as whole in laws (whether wife's or husband's) family is concerned u definitely need to have yr own space or privacy despite they live with u in the same house or somewhere else
It was just an observation on my part that whenever my wife thinks/says she is referening to hum. *On the other hand for me its always *mein. *Its not that I do not love my family, its just the way **I am* wired..
i'm afraid, but yes u are.
and u only think like it or do u actually do stuff on yr own and keep it to yr self , i mean does yr wife knew about it ??
Do you think that keeping this *mein *thing alive is worth it.
it depends ......... as long as it doesn't affect yr relationship , closeness with yr wife , but if it's the other way round + it bothers yr wife than u need to work on it . Marriage is all about give n take man.