Individual decisions and family-based variations

diff families and individuals handle things differently.

many people may be liberal and other may not be.

sometimes, important things will come about only when the individuals and the families are sane and rational
, pragmatic and realistic in deciding about two peoples’ decision to become life partners or be in a relationship.

why do people forget this aspect of familial differences , when a blanket statment is given to Muslim and Pakistani families that they are very conservative or opressive towomen?

i think, there is some degree of opression to men, as well.

they get married here and there, because their parents want them to.
and then their lives are just as unhappy as their parnters’

it is essential to at least get to know the life partner even within arranged marriage sequences.

any thoughts?

Re: Individual decisions and family-based variations

Troubles arise INvariably when the marriage is based upon anything but partnership. If the two people in the marriage are true partners who share the same goals then everything can work out. If they are master/slave or any variation on that theme, if the marriage was based upon anything other than compatability the there is potential BIG trouble.