Re: Indian husband , pakistani wife .... potential issues ..
I had a friend who married an Indian. Both were American born. Actually, I don't think he was American born, but eventually got his citizenship, or a green card or something. Spent most of his life here.
Anyway, there were issues. The family has a thing against Pakistanis, which I knew from personal experience before this marriage even happened. However, they've married all their kids to Pakistanis and their business flourishes only because of Pakistanis, and every dawat they go to is Pakistani.
After she married him, granted there were other issues, but one was that her MIL told her and her family that our Indian girls are not like "her". They're more submissive and listen to their in-laws. Issue had come up that she was continuing her job as a medical resident and paying off her loans and the family wanted her to stop working and have babies. She was like "well i have loans to pay off and I worked for this career and I like it, thanks".
So, they got into her face and her family's, stating that muslims from India do not behave this way, they listen to their elders, that Pakistanis are cheap and selfish, and they should have known better than to marry with a Pakistani family. A couple of other galian about people from Nazimabad and how Karachi-walay are trashy, before the girl's father was like, seriously, there is no need to get so insulting.
Husband didn't stop the comments, and quite agreed with them.
shrugs
You have to be careful, because there are indian muslims who dislike Pakistan, dislike Pakistani policies, and dislike Pakistani culture.
They may not make it evident, because in any given area, if there are more Pakis, they'll try to marry their kids in Paki families, because its the next best option to an Indian muslim.
I know another couple - wife is Indian, husband is Pakistani. Hubz keeps his mouth shut on these issues, because he knows how she gets. But we went to a dawat and the singer there sang Made in Pakistan, a spinoff on Alisha Chinoi's Made in India. Cheesy, but whatever. She got really enraged, and started mouthing off Pakistanis. I was like...Uh with all due respect, you are outnumbered by Pakistanis here. Can you be more polite about our culture? Thanks.
To which she didn't respond. Still meets with us, but keeps better control over her mouth.