Asim and Omar. Two friends. Asim’s certain level of help , changed Omar’s life forever ( into a better life) … Omar in return helped Asim by encouraging him to explore different business ideas and soon Asim becomes a leading business entity.
Asim, is a true business man, who knows how to make money off anyone. He made huge profits on Omar as well , while helping him out. … Omar on the other hand, is not money minded and remains sincere and doesnt let the money be the issue , keeps sacrificing the money if Asim gets stuck on it.
My questions is , should Omar continue to remain indebted to Asim forever coz Asim’s help changed his life … should he continue to get exploited financially by Asim? should he do something about it?
Should he move on ( create distance in his relationship with Asim) , to avoid taking any further help from Asim .. coz when Asim helps once , he has his way to get the returns in a much more profitable manner.
Omar fears , everyone will say , that Omar is selfish and he doesnt need Asim anymore therefore he’s changed his attitude… no one will see the return benefits he has given to Asim …
What do you guys think of the situation and what is your advise for Omar?
Depends a lot on the relationship. If Asim helped him just to benefit financially from him later, then it is perfectly fine to break away (or distance). If things have been reciprocal (which my impression says they have not) then there is a bond which should not be broken.
How is Asim making profit off Omar? If he's selling him the same product/service he sells to everyone else at the same price and profitting as he would with anyone else, I don't see anything wrong with that.
As far as Omar "moving on", I would need to better understand the nature of the help he got initially before I can comment.
if Asim is making profit and its not costing omer anything, omer should not be worry.
For example, if some of my friends is giving my reference to different people in doing his business and in no way harming my reputation, I'd not have problem with this nor will I ask for my cut.
I think having a friendship and exploited monetarily does not goes hand in hand. I have gone through something similar, a friend went through rough patch who was in big problem, business failing heavily in debt and verge of losing everything.
I supported him in very way i could, including money and other help to sort his problems. Due to my help he managed to solve his problem and now he is very rich, riding very high.
Now I can see how once a humble person transformed into a ego driven arrogant fellow, but on other side he also appreciate my contribution and i am the only (not even wife or siblings) could tell him straight on the face if he is wrong at any issue.
Although i played huge part in his life to solve is problem (he would not be here without that first place), but subsequently whatever he earned is is purely due to his luck and business acumen.
On other side i do not feel he exploited me in anyway, I helped him when no one was there and happy for the good outcome) and have nothing to do with his money.
We still have strong relationship (although i started disliking his new found arrogance, but since he never shown this on me i can live with it), we still meet each other every Sunday morning for breakfasts and share everything under the sun.
My advice to Omar just keep relationship intact but do not allow to interfere and each others business area.
Both had benefit of relationship one way or other and now if Omar feels Asim is taking advantage of situation and his prior support, then he can slowly withdraw from business relation but as friends they should continue somce contact. Eventually Omar may become tired of "keep sacrificing" or less inhibited of his emotions and relationship may get worse.
one of my bestest friends once told me DANI dosti mein kabhi bhi paisa beech mein mat laana, and i guess that is the best advise i could give as well, Omar should obviously keep his friendship intact just like others said but should try to keep money as far away from that equation :k:
see thats the point Kaun, when someone is indebted to another person, in any situation .... its hard to say no to them ...
So then the question arises , when the indebtor starts taking benefit of you , should you just sideline all the good deeds and move on? coz if you stay back and try to say no, its going to cause friction.
CB if friction is caused due to saying NO to money involvement then u know the other person was not really or is no longer a friend n e ways, so quiet honestly i wont have any qualms about doing it, however this is my opinion. :k:
Sometimes you just got to stop and weigh out as to howmuch that person has done for you and how much u have done for them, secondly woh dost hee kya jo apney ahsaan ginwaata rahay :k:
