I have seen drastically increasing rate of divorce in last few years. And apparently because of husband’s needs not getting fulfilled. He’d suddenly stop liking his wife for any xyz reason.
I feel media has really effected Pakistani society. They divorces I have seen 60 percent of them were because men wanted to marry younger/other girl.
One highly Qualified doctor at the age of 50 with 7 kidz. Her Husband who was engineer got married with girl 20 years younger then him.
and more examples like it.
Man have more demands now that they want to see sexy, model looking and young girls or reasons are different?
Moreover, divorcee girls have no standing in society…why the Divorced tag is that bad. I bet virginity is not the issue. Because so many girls who are no more virgin ( haraam deeds )are treated in better way then divorced women ( who was actually religiously and socially married and did everything in halaal way)
If you really need to find the reason behind divorce rate then you need to all the population. And if you need to find out that whether or not men are behind this sinister plan, then you need to look at men room all walks of life. And look at how their trend as changed in regards to their needs or finding women. From men, you find rich, middle class, poor, very poor, educated, uneducated, religious, nonreligious. It is not possible that all men all of a sudden wanted sexy model looking girl as a wife. There are men in cities, metros, and then villages. Nothing has happened to Pakistan that would reflect a change in all men. So, the reason could be anything. This does not at all mean I am defending men. All I am saying is, if you seek an honest answer, start off by being unbiased and look at the bigger picture. And try to find one single cause for this increase in divorce rate. See, if you find out the divorce rate in the metros has jumped compared to towns or villages then you can narrow it down. Then in cities of only the people exposed to certain content tend to do that, then you can narrow it down further.
All in all your justification for high divorce ratio/rate may be a mere generalization. Further, the few examples you gave do not support your idea.
Now, I agree to your comments that divorced girls have no standing in society. This is very unfortunate but at the same time is a fact. As for the reasons, we can trying to squeeze out any justifiable reason, but in the end the reality is not going to change.
Is this thread meant to be answered by multi-nicks?
I think this problem can be solved by allowing men to keep multiple wives. This will also stop men from being so picky when they have to marry for the first time.
Is this thread meant to be answered by multi-nicks?
I think this problem can be solved by allowing men to keep multiple wives. This will also stop men from being so picky when they have to marry for the first time.
are ya for real?
if i was married to man who wanted to have another wife, i would rather divorce him
its not a matter of allowing or not ... you do not have to ask your current wife if you can get another one ... lols sorry but this phase sounds amusingly ironic ...
^Technically in Islam he doesn't need her permission but the marriage is not allowed to be kept secret (which unfortunately is still what happens a lot tho) cos of issues like the 'unknown' brothers and sisters ending up married to each other and so on.. It is obviously recommended that hubby gets wife permisson first or even just informs her out of respect and so she can decide if she can handle the situation (or even help choose someone lol) and wants to stick around or not..
The worst situations tend to happen when wife has found out months or even years down the line that her other half has someone else and all those times he has said he has to go on work trips or visit his ill mother he has actually been with the other woman :(
His time and money must be divided equally so can't really see how he'd be able to get away with being outside the house at least 50% of the time without lying which is obviously haram..