not paying attention to clear signs or hidden messages?
what does it do to a link, a bond or a developing relationship?
share if you like.
best,
Dushwari
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not paying attention to clear signs or hidden messages?
what does it do to a link, a bond or a developing relationship?
share if you like.
best, Dushwari
Inattention is, psychologically, a very conscious attempt to either;
1)Gain more attention, normally because of the lack of interpretable understanding of the signs.
or
2)Reject the attention, for the reasons better known to the one who is doing that.
It should, however, be noted that there are clear and animated signs of each kind of behavior. One must pay attention to body language, facial expressions, allusion and choice of words, general impression of the language.
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Relationships are like flower bushes, you have to nurture them , feed them , water them, prune them , save them from harsh weathers.
In short they demand due attention , right amount of fertilizer of love and care, right amount of tear water, prune the growth of unwanted branches of jealousy and mistrust, save them from the storms of doubts and harsh cold spells of in-attentiveness.
If you do all that then you will see them full of beautiful flowers of joy of relationship.
Oh boy , this is enough of philosophy and poetry for one day. I am exhausted now.:D
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thanks, mirch for your perspective.
best,
Dushwari
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Smile....
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hi intelliphant,
your reply is a great perspective too. :>
i did not miss acknowledging it, on purpose.
nice. we will continue the discussion.
best,
Dushwari
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when people hoodwink their flaws, and think that they can gain attention, by beng irresponsible, do you feel that they deserve attention - positive or negative?
share your thoughts on this if you like.
best,
Dushwari
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Sometimes we all go through not giving someone appropriate amount of attention and sometimes we don't get it ourselves. If it is a consistent behavior then maybe we need to work on that relationship harder, otherwise, maybe a temporary distraction maybe the reason. Maybe nothing serious at all!
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i good point, Niksik.
it makes perfect sense :>
thanks,
Dushwari
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when people hoodwink their flaws, and think that they can gain attention, by beng irresponsible, do you feel that they deserve attention - positive or negative?
share your thoughts on this if you like.
best, Dushwari
Dushwari, it is hard to generalize a behavior up to this granularity with out sniffing the general perception of the subject matter personality. Deception is never a commendable personality trait but we have to be very careful in identifying “deception’ as a hallmark of one’s personality without analyzing whether or not our yardstick of fairness is disfigured by some external or emotional factors.
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Only after we have gone through our own self assessment, we may be in a better position to decide as to what kind of attention a person deserves who is generally deceptive, not merely perceived or presumed. An established “deceptive” does not deserve any attention.
Generally our behavior with other people should not be conditioned with their attitude towards us, unless we have no choice otherwise.
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intelliphant, you brought to the fore a very good point. thanks for the sharing of perspective. very nice indeed and refreshing.
best,
Dushwari