**hug is between mahrams only and that too [except between husband and wife] should be from the side of her rather than the front...kinda hug from side taht is approach her from her side. this is the tradition back home in indian subcontinent. hugs between naa-mahrams is not permitted.
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soooo if we are allowed to hud mehrams from the side...apart from our spouses...where does that leave me hugging my dad? hmmm interesting...
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what FT means that if the person is not BIL or SIL then hug is ja'ez ;)
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I think we have too much concern what other people do.
If the two people involved were consenting, it really is none of our business.
It is only when the behaviour becomes harmful to society when Islamic justice would step in.
Until then... this isn't really relevant to you.
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^^TLK dont take panga with me 
. I didnt mean that.
In one of my BILs family, its kind of in their family that cousins hug each other, even kiss on cheeks. When my sis got married and reached her in-laws, she was quite worried when she saw all that happening. So she told her BIL to keep his distance. As she doesnt like it n ll never allow him to cross that limit. He made quite fun of her and later he told his mom while reporting to her about same issue that bhabi said so n so, he added, “A” bhai is lucky he found a wife like her 
So matlab yeh ke at the end of day right always wins and is always appreciated.
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Same is with half of my khandaan, they all are very casual around each other. Hugging etc is nothing. The other half is conservative and stuff. We look at them and think 
If something is not allowed in Islam there is a REASON for it. Calling people who observe such things dirty minded is being narrow minded in itself.
I don have any Bils but I do have a lot of male cousins & we have a very close brother sister relationship with couple of them. Many of my male cousins have been MashaAllah really growing up lately. Although I am quite older than them they know we can't shake hands anymore or hug each other. At first it was kind of hard to explain & one of them even made fun of us but once they got it they respect me & my sisters even more.
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Okay, but what i don’t understand is, what Does it matter to us??
Yes, we all know its wrong! SO What??? How does it in anyway effect our lives?
Lets change ourselves for the better instead of piacking at people for hugging:smack:
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Hugs make the world a better place. If people are comfortable with hugging cousins, bils, uncles etc then so be it, if youre not then thats fine too. I think its stupid that people jump to random conclusions or think bad of other people because of things like that. Time changes circumstances, before men and women wouldnt even sit in the same room together, or even look at each other, should we frown upon that too?
and dont say, its haram. there are so so so many things we do daily that are haram. we dont say anything about them but GOD FORBID someone hugs their RELATIVE!!!!
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What is wrong, is wrong! It is an issue people don't really care about. It has never been thought upon. Good that this issue is now brought up.
I know people who do this do not have the negative intention.. it is just 'brotherly', 'sisterly' etc kinda love..
But it is HARAM! Simple!
No one can justify an act which is considered HARAM in Islam.
I know we all do many things which are forbidden (Please do not come up with different issues in this thread). But at the end of the day, we cannot justify those either.
If you hug your BIL/SIL/Cousins, it is wrong. Please don't ask us to be 'broad minded' coz it in no way has anything to do with being narrow minded.
These inappropriate hugs are showing how people in our society ignore such tiny prohibitions of our religion.
To all the people who feel it is not harming us in anyway...
Actually it is. We are a society.. we all are Muslims (ALHAMDULILLAH) and the teens of our society might get a feeling of it being something 'COOL'. In fact, I myself used to feel how come my family doesn't allow such hugging and handshakes. I used to feel why was I born in the family who is so narrow minded. But then ALHAMDULILLAH as I grew older I learnt how right my family is by not encouraging such acts.
Girls and Boys of our society in college & university hug each other & shake hands... and that is totally awful!! How do they even get the heart of doing such things... they might be just friends... with no ill intention... but what is wrong, is wrong & will always remain wrong!! Period.
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ghussa thook dau aur aaao galay lug jaaow, THAAA KER KAY!
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^:omg:
that song is so silly.
Considering all these threads about falling in love with the Brother in law and the sister in law, I suggest we don't hug anybody any more. Not only that we shouldn't even have any physical contact. Standing at 6 feet distance should be mandatory for all family members.
ahahaha agreeed!
I think we have too much concern what other people do.
If the two people involved were consenting, it really is none of our business.
It is only when the behaviour becomes harmful to society when Islamic justice would step in.
Until then... this isn't really relevant to you.
Two ppl can consent for alot of things and that doesnt make it halal or allowed.
ghussa thook dau aur aaao galay lug jaaow, THAAA KER KAY!
LOL
:k:
But dont you know, ke aaj kal logun ko sahi baat kehnay aur samjhanay se woh burra maan jatay hain aur naraz bhi hojatay hain 
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^ You are right... but I hope people do get our point! :)
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I think the problem starts coming in when we mix religion with what we do in our lives......now Islam being complete code of life explains what is right and wrong...and we should not justify doing one wrong by saying we also do another wrong. A wrong is wrong and will result in punishment! No question about it!
I think the problem starts coming in when we mix religion with what we do in our lives.....!
problem comes when we separate religion from what we do in our lives....
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Peoples shouldn't hug anybody. People smell. Especially boys...chi!
One of my male cousins used to hug me when we hadnt seen each other for a while, we were raised in one house growing up so hes always been an older brother, his wife didnt like it, so I told him he smells and he shouldnt hug anyone ever again. Now we just high five. Its safer.
Hugs are drugs people. Just say NO!