Niksik
June 26, 2011, 12:34am
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Re: Inappropriate closeness with certain inlaws
I definitely know there are tales of people fooling around with the SIL or BIL. And with those situations one can at least imagine it happening. One can see that the ages would be roundabout the same and hence if they see any behaviour which can be viewed as flirtation, one easily deems it inappropriate.
What of the behaviour of elder relatives? Where you do not expect to face this situation? At a recent function, a trusted aunt was relating a new phenonmenon she had heard of, it is not a “trend” yet, not so prevalent that many have heard of such stories, perhaps because there arent many stories like that or perhaps cos it doesnt happen as often. But either way, she told of cases where the boy’s MIL and the boy were involved/having an affair.
There was a thread on here about older women marrying younger guys. I guess this situation can’t be so far fetched either, ie the MIL of the boy and the boy being involved if we consider it from that angle. Plus there are women (older) who should be called “aunty” or “mami” or “chachi” whatever, and that in itself keeps into account the relationship and respect which should be between the two people. But some women who fall into that age bracket insist that they be addressed by their first name, or more commonly, “call me Baji”
What does one do when such Bajis exhibit inappropriate behaviour, such as talking to a much younger married man in the middle of the night for hours, divulging their life’s woes to him and crying in front of him, touching his arm/holding his hand at times in public for no particular reason. Is it appropriate? Is it the first step of flirtation ?
Such bajis are dangerous.
What’s happening as you stated above, is a result of people letting go of their basic value system. I don’t want to bring in religion here. Yes we all know that not all marriages are hunky dorey and all that, but these weird things happen because people allow themselves to get carried away.