Salaam everyone I joined gupshup some time ago but it slipped out of my mind that I had joined
I’m posting here now because I’m feeling extremely down and don’t know how to move forward. I am 29 and moved to Toronto nearly two years ago to study here after a divorce. I don’t have children. It has been a really hard road. I don’t have any family here and have had difficulty making friends. Mostly because my marriage wasn’t a very good one and I isolated myself in it, and also because it’s been very hard meeting desi people here. I live in downtown and most people at school were much, much younger than me.
Unfortunately, because of my job, I can’t move to where there is family. But I really want to be able to live a fulfilling and happy life and I don’t know how. I want to meet people my age, and want to eventually meet a guy, but divorce, the lack of family to introduce me, and being in downtown (and not in Mississauga or Brampton) makes things really hard. I feel like a shell of a person when I come home from work and keep making bad decisions because of intense loneliness.
Thanks for clarifying the Homer thing, partyslims. For a second I froze because I didn't even realize the other "behooda" connotation of the name. Ugh.
Honestly, all I want is family, a loud house to come home to at the end of the day, security and love. :)
If you’re looking to meet people, look up desi events (singles events, networking events). Look for masjid sponsored events where you can meet guys and girls and create your own social circle.
A quick search on the interweb, and this is what Mr. Google just told me:
I’ve never been to these events, by why not give it a try - no harm and at least you’ll meet new people for professional and personal networking opportunities.
Don't be shy to mingle with people who are not desi- just speak to all students and faculty and make friends- they don't need to be Pakistani... And they can actually be the ones to introduce you to other desis or guide you where u need to be to meet them. I know u are lonely, I'm in Ottawa alone now too, no family... But like a previous poster said , the experience has helped define me
I actually attended one of those meetup along with couple of my friends. It was so boring we ended up leaving without wasting our time. Nevertheless...we enjoyed our time...as more of my friends joined us later.
Go go go...dive right in to anyone of these events or even all of them. You have to start somewhere and if you don't you will always wonder what could have happened if you had just tried harder.
Yes, like others have suggested, try and see if you can meet like minded people at one of these events. You could also take a special interest class and meet people there. Where did you move to Toronto from?
I joined gupshup some time ago but it slipped out of my mind that I had joined 
