The person you're with or any friend is supposed to be your friend, someone with whom it is a two way street...not 50% all the time but averages out to you both getting and giving.
I have had friends who were users and friends who were high maintaince, after some bad experiences, i don't bother with people like that, i go in with an open mind and if once, twice they behave a certain way...why bother keeping the friendship or the relationship?
There are way to many wonderful people out there to waste time with someone where you're doing all the giving.
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what i dont seem to understand is why this pretty girl in her late 20's has not even found one good guy..i just wonder how long a pakistani girl can wait
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ugh....It really bugs me when people question why people havne't found someone because they are "so old", so Pretty, smart, intelligent, cultured whatever..
They haven't found the right person, it isn't because they are "TOO PICKY" or whatever else old fashioned auntys, bajis and bhai say. ...
Allah (swt) just hasn't decided it's time AND no matter how open someone is you often don't know the whole story.
Fraudz and amelie, you guys are totally on target with your thoughts on the issue. I am a very confident (sometimes overly-confident I guess) person but I do have a bad habit of wearing my heart on my sleeve, as the saying goes. I had doubts all along and there were red flags all over the place from day one which I regretably chose to ignore due to the person's charm and vulnerability. Like you said Fraudz, I became the Mother Theresa or Florence Nightingale at that moment. Granted that was totally my fault, but hey, one learns from their mistakes and moves on to the finer/quality things/people in life. I'm convinced that God puts people like that in our paths to learn a lesson from and to grow stronger from, based on the experience. How true this is! I made a huge mistake by being strung along by this person's sugar-coated promises of a perfect life together. What a joke. Now that I look back on all of it, it's not only comical but downright unrealistic. No wonder people like that don't get too close to you. God forbid their true side is revealed. In any event, I am so very glad that Allah mian has guided me on the right path away from such individuals. Whenever my time comes, I am looking forward to it anxiously because I know it will be with the right person who is well-deserving of me 100-fold.
I fully agree with you here. I have seen many guys doing that, being a guy i can tell most of them are not serious from day one! I am not supporting girls here, but thats the fact.
