Re: In our house there is a monster.
Sadaf, that's a tough situation you had with your mil. I'm not sure what the psychology was either. But I'm glad your issue was resolved. I understand the respect that should exist for mother and mil. In the beginning it was very cute that Dadi was going nuts over her granddaughter. She never had a daughter of her own and so everyone was saying that she's really excited and she'll calm down. At times it seemed she was living out some fantasy that she was the mother and I was just like this maidservant or something. I let her live out her dream of having a daughter. I didn't want to spoil Dadi's happiness. But now I see it having some bad affect on my daughter.
You're right that kids at this age have the ability to listen and we're very stern in correcting her immediately. My mil just called me two days ago after hearing that my husband disciplined Safia. She told me that father should never discipline only love and play with his daughter. She said that only I should discipline her. She told me to tell Aziz about this and when I did, he didn't agree. I'm glad that he's reasonable. At the heart of the issue is probably that Dadi has a deep seated fear of some sort. She has many insecurities. It's a complicated issue. I think the best I can do for now is just keep talking with Safia.