Re: In our house there is a monster.
I recently read the book with the title potty training for Yale, and it is written by a father who thinks that parents sometimes take their responsibility too seriously. It is a humorous attempt to make a point that it is good to be concerned and be involved in child raring but not to over do it. Most often kids follow up on their parents on what is important in life and what is not and as long as parents keep presenting their point of view and follow it with their own example, children almost always follow their parent’s behavior.
My parents lived with me and trust me every time I would be disciplining Misbah, she would look to her grandparents for solace and it’s really hard to manage and at times very frustrating. I talked to my parents about it but old people are even harder to get through than children. I try not to take it too seriously because I believe Misbah has a lot of growing up to do and I will have plenty of time to influence her.
One thing I would like to do when she grows up a little will be to make a point that; from her wish list, she has to give one of her favorite toys to someone else who is less fortunate. Giving to Salvation Army, Angel trees etc. So she understands that while it feels good to have a toy, it feels even better to give it away to make others happy. I don’t think she will take it up the very first time but I hope that eventually the happiness of giving will grow on her.