Qayamat se Qayamat Tak - Super hit bolly movie in which families were very good friends and then the guy divorces the girl from other family.. both families become worst enemies (from best friends) - their kids grow up / fall in love but families don’t accept. In the end they both are killed but it was a true romantic movie
but on a serious note - just let everything happen on it’s own. The more you stop, the worst it would get.
Every one knows - love knows no bounds. Let them enjoy their days. After all true love does not happen all the time. They will figure out if it’s best for them to be together or not. You just be on their side (your daughter’s side) all the way!
ALLAH SWT dont like the people who creates "Fasad and Sher". so you should also keep this friend and foe away from the dictionary.
i suggest you ask your daughter to do the istakhara. we get ourselves into relationship in the name of ALLAH SWT, so if the situation is something like you mentioned its good to go what ALLAH SWT has chosen for us.
ps. give em a call that if their son is willing to marry your daughter then you will more than happy to bond it cuz you also dont want to drag this fight. and if you serve your daughter with good knowledge then you shouldn't fear anything, and be positive about it.
ps2. it will be better if you also elaborate on the guys background, cuz only credential you mentioned is he is rich. i will suggest you to find a guy for your daughter based on "Taqwa"
Although i am extremely troubled by this issue, there are lot of sleepless nights and sole searching going on.
There is no way she would rebel. This is not in our blood, family is always top priority for her (but she might leave with the feeling that she scarify something for family). She is one the best human being i know, her moral values and commitment with family are unshakable.
You are right, since things went up in the air now, it would have its own dynamics. Again i have heart to heart discussion with her today, she understand the situation, also share same fears and more.
I have been keeping a close watch on this, at firs it started as casual friendship, and later on a one way traffic on his part (for her nothing more then a good friend) and now we are facing this all in 7 years.
I am not sure if she really in loves him, it seem she believes that he is someone who loves her so much no one else ever would do, because of that faith in his love she is willing stand for him.
How come relationship went so far without forewarning?
Complicated relations like this may not be good idea.
The daughter needs to be advised to control her emotions. A good guy but bad or potentially bad family is not a good combination.
How will you keep in touch with her in days or years to come if she marries?
As mentioned earlier it was level of trust between us, she always kept me informed, always told me that he is a good friend but (it is one way traffic) she does not share same feeling for him.
About two years ago, she have told him clearly that there is no possibility any marriage due to family circumstance advised him to move on, but agree to keep normal friendship with him.
From then onward i did not follow up on the issue (although there is always doubt about this on back of my mind)
ALLAH SWT dont like the people who creates "Fasad and Sher". so you should also keep this friend and foe away from the dictionary.
i suggest you ask your daughter to do the istakhara. we get ourselves into relationship in the name of ALLAH SWT, so if the situation is something like you mentioned its good to go what ALLAH SWT has chosen for us.
ps. give em a call that if their son is willing to marry your daughter then you will more than happy to bond it cuz you also dont want to drag this fight. and if you serve your daughter with good knowledge then you shouldn't fear anything, and be positive about it.
ps2. it will be better if you also elaborate on the guys background, cuz only credential you mentioned is he is rich. i will suggest you to find a guy for your daughter based on "Taqwa"
There is no way i am going to call them, they need to settle their house first, there would be big riots in there house as well. Let them settle themselves one way or other (it would be good if the idea shot down at their level, it would save me agony of bing bad guy in the eye of her).
As mentioned the guy is a distant cousin, doing his BBA from a local university in Karachi, personally i do not mix with them even before my brother's marriage, but my children has very good impression about him.
I know a girl who married a guy from an enemy family (there was a murder involved), now she is aloof from her own.
In your situation, its too hard to predict whether the guy is strong enough or sensible enough to withstand the family pressure when it comes. And if he really has to pressurize his own family to ask for rishta, then its not a very good beginning. You should discuss with your daughter if she would be able to handle all the emotional struggle that she may have to go through in future.
in which families were very good friends and then the guy divorces the girl from other family.. both families become worst enemies (from best friends) - their kids grow up / fall in love but families don’t accept. In the end they both are killed 
but it was a true romantic movie 