In-Laws

[Maham]

Re: In-Laws

@Gina

Don’t be scared, treat your MIL’s as close as you can to your own immediate family. Just don’t enter your susraal thinking your MIL and SIL are there to poison you, burn you and treat you bad.

I think more than it being a clash of personalities it’s interfering and not giving one another respected ‘space’ that causes friction.

Very well said.

@Butterscotch

How come when mothers yell at their daughters it is “raising good kids” and when MILs tells their bahu the right thing it is “clash of personalities” ?

That’s cuz we have this in mind that no matter what our mils can never think good of us and vice versa.

@diamond321

^ because there is a difference in intentions. Mothers do that to make you a better person & most of the MILs do that to show their authority and power and to insult you.

Stereotypical.

@Magic_8_Ball

Some mothers ACTUALLY do lament that their child isn’t fair-skinned…but even in this absurd lamentation…a mother has some sort of concern for her child. She may wish that the child is fair-skinned because she thinks that such a quality would improve the child’s lifestyle due to cultural attitudes. I’m not trying to justify such thinking. It’s ridiculous but there’s an element of concern. With a MIL…a comment about skin color may be devoid of any concern…and be out of nothing but condecension or cattiness. ***Not saying that all MILs are like that.

It goes back to the point that was made earlier, mother and MIL are two different relationships, two different dynamics, and therefore intentions and feelings and tolerance levels can’t be the same.

Well said.