in-laws....

libranrulz · April 29, 2010, 9:48pm

I was talking to a friend.. who is pregnant and her in laws are visiting her. She is sick.. i know that.. very sick actually but the fuss she is making about her in laws visiting is beyond my understanding.

My reason for this topic is .. are in laws that bad?? I see more and more girls being against their in laws and hating them for no reason.. i say.. at least have a damn reason to hate them.. not because they are your husband’s parents.. that’s not a reason to hate them.

Why is it that way?? Why aren’t mothers of such girls or bahus teach them that in laws are just as important and should be respected and loved. I see this trend in this generation.. hate in laws even before you even get married. WHY?? Even if they do little things out of place.. everyone makes mistakes.. i am sure our own parents to do.. we don’t hate them, why should we hate the guy’s parents??

I am no saint, but with all the weird things my MIL/FIL say to me its still not bad. I still love them. I am sure there are times I say stupid things too. We are all human. My mother had an extremely tough experience with my daadi.. so much that killing herself would’ve been a better option than to live in that hell. She stayed and listen to every single thing my daadi said to her. Now as a mother and MIL now she always encourages us to respect our in laws and go out of our way to address their needs. With my mom’s experience us children should’ve been opposite but we aren’t.. Why do girls with perfect families then hate the guy’s parents for no reason?? and in most cases that I came across… hate is a small word.. girls’ say the meanest things we can imagine to their in laws.

Newly married girls, please don’t step into someone’s house with so much hatred feeded to you already. Give them time to get used to you… give yourself time to get used to them. Our parents are not perfect so why should we expect his parents to be??? We love our parents despite all the mistakes they make, don’t change the rules for his parents. Respect and love them. If they come visit you, do everything you’ll do for your own parents.

ok done!

finally a voice of reason