I just got married recently.
Some strange things about my in laws,
they dont like to interact with my family or me but only to my wife. ie, they never visit my home, none of them. and they dont have contact with me or my family.
as i am not in Pak, my parents go to her house and i use to go as well when i was there.
is it normal? its quite strange that some of my sisters in law never been to my home not before or after marriage.
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Well since you just got married. Give it some time and you'll be asking how to get rid of 'em. :D
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Definitely strange, especially when your family is visiting them. And not even before marriage? Tricky situation. Good luck :)
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its common in pakistan to have the beti ke ghar ka pani is haram kind of mentality. I dont knwo if its out of respect that they put a son in law on a pedestal or whether they r indebt to him for such behavior, i just know that it could be the reason they might be keeping themselves away from u.
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Shah,
I wouldnt worry too much...unless they are being rude and stand offish, if the only thing concerning you is that they dont interact much...well like Devilious said...alot of families have that whole dont go over to ur daughters marital home and in the first year NOT EVER kind of deal.. I had a friend whose parents lived in the same city like five blocks over and after she got married her parents did not come to her house ONCE for about a yr or so...just give them time..or just be really open and talk to them about how they feel...
Now if they are being rude then who knows what they are thinking..
S
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invite them over to a dinner.. :) talk to wife about this... after all she can explain her parents the best :)
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Yeah, ask your wife. Sometimes a girl's family feels uncomfy visiting with their daughter's in-laws and husband - they feel like they dont have a place there. As open-minded as my own parents are, they've both told me that they dont plan on interfering much and they certainly never want to stay at my home - like EVER. I was like "but why??? we can have sleep-overs and watch tv and do nails- it'll be fun"...their answer was still no.
So maybe they feel that even by visiting, that's not their place to do. shrugs Wifey will know best.
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There's a reason for everything, it's just that we don't know it.
Talk it over with your wife and hear what she has to say, maybe invite your inlaws and make them feel welcome. But be careful in case it goes too much the other way - that can happen and you have a great opportunity now to "make a few rules". Think to the future - you may have children soon. How much time do you want your inlaws to spend at your place or you children to spend at theirs? Who makes the rules? Until you are actually in a situation when there is potential for problems you won't understand what I'm talking about, so take things one at a time.
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invited even with protests many times. got back just excuses.
wife basically says that she doesnt want any problems (it may cause). or they cant come cause no one is there to bring them. etc, my father in law passed just a month before our wedding. and no other man in their house. but i think thats just excuse, this can be arranged if they are willing.
to me, they dont want to engage in any thing, just to be away from our family even me.
I feel stranger in their home too, cause they speak only to my wife , and to me just hi and bye stuff.
in start i tried to be more friendly by then i stopped cause I m not that kind of person who can stand formal or cold response for long.
my home is not crowded at all, just my parents thats all. even i am not there these days. she can bring her sister even some time for company.
its right they may be hasitent as it may be normal. but completely avoiding this will create strange situation i guess. when there is no such issue stopping this.
and they are not backward but bit more modern in that sence. so its not related to any custom or family traditions.
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Thanks verizon i always wanted in laws not very near to my house. but if this kind of inlaws then thats not a problem. 
I am not in to much of invitation parties etc, but not up for total discontent? i certainly want my space
shall i stop going or calling them if they dont want to come?
i havent spoken to wife about this in details. but i have to.
Thanks everyone for replies
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salams Shak kills, a great news, congratulations! shadi boht boht mubarak ho :)
as for the problem you talked about...i can understand ur frustration but i'd say give it some time and don't assume anything bad...they are new in your family...maybe they want some time to adjust...give them some time and continue to be friendly from your side without much expectations from them...
you know in our culture we also have the rasam that "shadi shuda beti ke ghar ka pani bhee naheen peena chahiye"...some people still believe that...so maybe they are stuck on that point....?
anyway, give them time, give them a chance, and dont worry about this issue too much, its not of that much importance that you should be worried about it being newly married imho... :)
congrats once again, and best wishes, may Allah swt bless your marriage :)
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Thanks Irem, as always respect your ideas and opinions.
I am not thinking bad about it, i know different families has different set up and values developed for them. it doesnt surprise me all because they are much self centered kind of people dont mingle too much with others. so me or my family is not exception.
but its continue for life, though it may be strange, i dont mind it. its strange cause you are so close to your wife and then you are completely stranger to her family.
Thanks for good wishes i certainly need that.
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so what you guys think, isnt enough time for them to visit? its over 6 months after wedding. now my wife got visa and she will be coming here, and i dont think after that they want to visit my family when their own daughter not there.