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*Originally posted by nikii: *
Nilu! don't take them serious , just ignore them .I can understand how you feel because one of my aunti was facing the same situaton .They don't have kids until 16 yrs and now this year they have mahsAllah twins one baby girl and boy mashAllah .
But the most important is how coperative and understanding your hubby is ? Because now you are his responsibilty and he must have to take care of you and he is the only one who can keep their mouth shut.
But don't worry Nilu InshAllah everything will be Okay InshAllah you will get through this testing time.My prayers are with you always:-) /QUOT
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*Originally posted by suroor_ca02: *
i find this whole post very disturbing. i guess i am just too traditional.
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suroor, dint i say desiz r hypocritez? if u ver reely "tradeesunaal" u vud nawt b on da net chatin vit unnon pepulz esp strange men. u vud b rapt in layerz of chaddor reeding da Qur'an n duin seventy nafl namaz afta each salat.... :-)
peepz r onli tradeesunaal ven it cumz 2 heering bout "untradeesunnal" wayz of livin vich deir narrowmindedness vont allou dem 2 accept.
Raindance, hu r u 2 decyd vat is "acceptable" n what is nawt?
4 u "marriage" is an obligasun, sum sorta "farz", 4 me it is a 40 day ritual of materializm n ostentation dat iz novair prescribed n dat iz lyk a millstone arond da neck of da poor man hu cannot afford 2 git hiz daughterz "marryd". 4 me civil marryj n nikah r synonymus. my gf n i r as much moslemz as da next guy in today's vorld. ve pray the saym 2 salat a day dat every1 else prayz, n 4get da rest of da salat jus lyk every1 else. ve reed da saym Qur'an. ve hav sex da saym way ne oder "decent" couple does. but ve alzo no how 2 be responsible in lyf. Allah SWT duz nowt provyd 4 us until ve do nowt provyd 4 arselvez n ve no dis. so vhy hav kidz ve cannowt afford? dat iz a LYF, anoder human bean dat ve hav 2 tink bout. diz iz vat desiz donut unnersand n jus go on adding more welfare recipient haramiz 2 da general population. i donut approv of havin 45 kydz n fedin dem rice crackerz evri day. i vant a solid kyd hu vil be grateful 4 bein given lyf n hu vil hav da resourciz n ability 2 myk da best of his/her lyf, not be sum booj on insaniyat lyk most pepulz kydz. pepul marry 4 sex...legalyzd prostitusun. n men can pimp 4 tymz atleest. i dun c da "ACCEPTABILITY" in dat.