in laws wants combine valima ceremony of there both sons in one function

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in laws wants combine valima ceremony of both sons in one function
mujhay ajeeb sa lag raha sooch ke he because meri shadi family se bahar ho rahe hain aur
un 2nd betay ki shadi family main ho rahe hain…
ab woh chahtay hain ke aik din dono ki valima ki dawat ho
ab stage kaisay banay ga ? adjustment kaise ho ghi both couples ki
aur main chahti ho sitting arrangement stage pe separate ho
stage kaisay set ho pai ga please tell me ??

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Re: in laws wants combine valima ceremony of there both sons in one function

:( IM NOW TENSE

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in laws wants combine valima ceremony of there both sons in one function

Don't stress. It's not that big of a deal, and makes perfect sense for one family to combing valimas for both sons. I've seen it in my own family...my chacha had a double valima for his two younger sons who got married in the same week. Have two different settees/seating arrangements on the stage for both couples..it's been done plenty of times and doesn't look odd at all. In fact, if you watch the drama Humnasheen, they showed a double wedding reception a couple of weeks ago..it looked perfectly fine

Do not over dramatize this or make an issue of it, you don't want to start off on the wrong foot with your inlaws

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It is a bit weird to me. I personally would not like it. This would mean sharing the same preference in color scheme as the other bride for the decor so it doesn't clash with both ur outfits. Idk maybe I am shallow or insecure.
Anyways, hubby's 4 mamoos had one wedding reception. The brides did not mind as they were all very close to each other and celebrate their wedding anniversary together each year.

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Re: in laws wants combine valima ceremony of there both sons in one function

I'm never a fan of this sort of thing bc it often creates unnecessary tension, but I can understand why people do it and it's also not necessarily a problem. Why don't you hear them out? Think about the things that are important for you on your valima day. Are any of them really being lost/compromised?

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Re: in laws wants combine valima ceremony of there both sons in one function

My personal opinion, a bride got to do whatever she wanted on her mehndi, nikkah and reception/baraat. If the in-laws host a small or large function, or pick an outfit and colours for the bride on the valima - don't stress. It's only one day!!! Marriages are not about the wedding outfit, the decor, the food or backdrop for pictures. Its about two families coming together and celebrating a happy event. So long as the families are happy, what does it matter that two brothers and therefore two brides have to share a valima celebration.

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Re: in laws wants combine valima ceremony of there both sons in one function

I k ow two sons who had valima same day, one went on to get divorced and remarry. In family pics there are both original couples. I would recommend two small functions on separate days.

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I would recommend setting two stages on opposite sides of the hall with the guests being seated in the middle.
This will not solve the issue of the decor but it will definitely give both couples the "individual" lime-light that the brides might be looking for and will also resolve any photo posterity issues should either couple decide to part ways in the future.

I'm always in favour of combining dawats....saves wasting money that could be better spent on more important things.....

I wonder what it would be like for the guests though.......kind of hard to afford two decent cash gifts at the same time, no?

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Re: in laws wants combine valima ceremony of there both sons in one function

I attended the weddings of three sisters together on the same day. (here in USA).

It was long and tedious, but that is how that family chose to make it work.

It was one huge stage, but three individual settings for each couple.

Each dulha/dulhan baraat arrived separately.

Separate cake cutting ceremony for each couple also took place.

SEparate rukhsati for each couple also took place..

Attended a joint shaadi/walima of a brother and sister also here in the US.

Large stage, with two individual elegant settings on the stage each of a different theme, but still managed to blend in with the overall color scheme.

Each family made its own grand entrance as did each couple., dulha and dulhan.

Separate cake cutting ceremonies, on either side of the hall.

It was a fun. fun wedding. Chaotic, but fun.

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in laws wants combine valima ceremony of there both sons in one function

It makes sense financially. However it is a little hard for guests who are attending who have to fork out 2 guests. But again don't stress - I have seen it happen plenty of times .