How do you deal with such people? Would you marry into such a family even if the guy is good?
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If you've only met the guy one or two times, it may be too early to decide that his parents will always tag around after marriage as well. But if you've met with him several times...like a considerable amount of time...and you've noticed that his parents are always there...then you can bring it up with him in a tactful way. It may even be that his family is more involved with the rishta process as it's the merging of two families, but would give the couple plenty of space after marriage. If he really is a good guy as you say....then he'll be understanding...don't write him off quickly.
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PcG is already trying to find faults in him or his family, keep it up and you will be married the next century.
In general not all inlaws are bad, maybe if you have a child then you will understand why parents follow their kids all around.
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My future in-laws thankfully have their own lives so they're not overbearing and when I do get to spend time with them, I love it.
With that said, no I wouldn't. I'm very independent and sometimes just enjoy my alone time. I'm not sure how you would gauge if they follow you around though before marriage.
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I know a couple of really nice young chaps and their families don't follow them around. I don't like playing match maker though!!
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Generally speaking, desis have close knit families. In the beginning, they are more involved in the newly wed couple's life. But usually, later on, things settle more into a routine. Talk to the guy if you have real concerns, but I doubt that he will like that much as they have been with him forever, and yours is a new relationship.
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What do you mean by this? Like they follow you places? Or him?
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What do you mean by this? Like they follow you places? Or him?
^ This. The question is not clear. Are the in-laws following you or their son? Are they following as in room to room inside the house? Places? Is this a situation where the rishta is being arranged and guy's parents are just involved OR the wedding is done?
Most importantly: Have you discussed this with the guy and if so, what did the guy say? Does he let YOU decide whether his parents will follow you? Or does he defend his parents actions?
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Are they following you around physically or you feel monitored cuz they need to know everything about your whereabouts?
Do they seem sincere otherwise? Could it be their way of getting to know about Your lifestyle and perhaps they will cool Down later on?
Being part of an in-Law Family that is totaly not functioning together I have come to the conslusion that its better to have an in-Law Family that does stick together and then live With its backsides too than this too much distance and coldness in relations that I see in my husband's Family!!
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Are they following you on twitter, instagram and facebook?
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Let's say the guy wants to do all outings with his family present and his wife. No alone time outside with wife. If you go out, guy says he will let his parents know.
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Hey as far as parents are not following you every time you go out or cancelling your plans, its okay I guess ( I am hoping the guy is a great catch.)
How do you deal with them? You let your man deal with them. Rest you make your plans with him.
PS. There is no need to bash PCG just because she has asked a question. I am sure all of us had concerns of our own when we were to get married, however we all learned or are learning ways to handle situations related to in-laws, etc.