Guy and girl like each other. Guy and girl decide to get married.
Guy and girl’s families are not thrilled about the wedding, but are resigned to the marriage happening.
One side/set of in-laws makes a greater effort to welcome the other side and make the relationship a happy one or at least not cause any problems in the relationship.
One side/set of in-laws is generally rude and difficult to be around. They’ll allow the marriage to happen but are neither courteous to nor respectful of the person their child wants to marry nor are they very pleasant to the other family.
The marriage has not taken place yet - what should the families and the couple do?
Guy and girl like each other. Guy and girl decide to get married.
Guy and girl's families are not thrilled about the wedding, but are resigned to the marriage happening.
One side/set of in-laws makes a greater effort to welcome the other side and make the relationship a happy one or at least not cause any problems in the relationship.
One side/set of in-laws is generally rude and difficult to be around. They'll allow the marriage to happen but are neither courteous to nor respectful of the person their child wants to marry nor are they very pleasant to the other family.
The marriage has not taken place yet - what should the families and the couple do?
Well according to me its very important that the two families are comfortable with each other and get along fine. However, if that is not the case then few points need to be taken into consideration before making up their final decision;
1) Is it the girls or the guys side that is being difficult? If it's the guy's side of the family it will become all the more difficult if the couple going to live with them marriage.
2) Have they discussed or given any reason for their rude behavior? Why such dislike for the girl/guy? Is it only because it was not their choice or there is more to it like different background/culture/lifestyle which is bound to come up in their dialy lives and be a reason for further animosity in future.
Guy and girl like each other. Guy and girl decide to get married.
Guy and girl's families are not thrilled about the wedding, but are resigned to the marriage happening.
One side/set of in-laws makes a greater effort to welcome the other side and make the relationship a happy one or at least not cause any problems in the relationship.
One side/set of in-laws is generally rude and difficult to be around. They'll allow the marriage to happen but are neither courteous to nor respectful of the person their child wants to marry nor are they very pleasant to the other family.
The marriage has not taken place yet - what should the families and the couple do?
People whether it's the guy's side or the girl's side is irrelevant. This is a pseudo-hypothetical scenario.
The question isn't about the specifics of the scenario, but about rude/unwelcoming in-laws. If you know about this behaviour before the wedding, what should the families/couple do?
I think the guy/girl can speak to their parents about how they're acting rude. Emotional blackmail "this means so much to me and you guys are being so rude tears
People whether it's the guy's side or the girl's side is irrelevant. This is a pseudo-hypothetical scenario.
The question isn't about the specifics of the scenario, but about rude/unwelcoming in-laws. If you know about this behaviour before the wedding, what should the families/couple do?
the scenario changes entirely if both the guy and girl like each other. They would be more willing to make compromises and accept the other side - rude or not. Meanwhile ...the guy/girl who's party is the rude type - he/she should be the one to try to make things more bearable for their SO. And the other side should try to make more efforts to 'win their hearts'
people do change with time. and to get something you gotta lose something too..
but if it's an arranged affair and one party shows their snooty rude side before marriage then it's a blessing in disguise and one should SERIOUSLY think before marrying his/her son/daughter into that family :)
Guy and girl like each other. Guy and girl decide to get married.
Guy and girl's families are not thrilled about the wedding, but are resigned to the marriage happening.
One side/set of in-laws makes a greater effort to welcome the other side and make the relationship a happy one or at least not cause any problems in the relationship.
One side/set of in-laws is generally rude and difficult to be around. They'll allow the marriage to happen but are neither courteous to nor respectful of the person their child wants to marry nor are they very pleasant to the other family.
The marriage has not taken place yet - what should the families and the couple do?
Actually, KNOWING that one of the sides is outright rude and will most likely continue to make things difficult, would make it easier on the person who belongs to that family to talk to them and ask them to please behave. They SHOULDN'T live with either family in a situation like that.
Also, it would be worthwhile looking into why the families don't like each other/the person. There may be something there and it's best for the couple to know that so that they can make more intelligent decisions.
