In - Laws in the wedding planning

Paheli00 · February 22, 2012, 3:47pm

Re: In - Laws in the wedding planning

My in-laws are officially making my life misrable during this whole wedding planning. I know you are suppose to pick and choose your battles but they are making a point to change everything that I want. If I say black they say white.

**They have even gone to the point to frame my family **and say they are disrepectful b/c we are not giving stuff to the groom that they are making us. Can they demand us to give him stuff? They said if we dont give all these things they will also take away stuff that have given me (My family is shocked at their comments) I dont make a big deal about it with my family b/c I come from a pretty traditional family and my parents would go crazy if they knew how I was being treated by them. I feel like they just want to take over everything and show they are in control.

Should I just back off and NOT care about my wedding and just let them do it or should I fight for my rights. I am afraid if I do then they will walk all over me in the future.

Just a little background:

A) We had an “arranged marraige” so its not like we are having a love marriage and **they did not pick me
B) My fiance has been on my side most of the time but now im starting to see him make excuses for his family too
**C) I have NEVER disrespected them (they walk all over me however ive always given them the respect b/c that is how I was raised)
D) I always dealt with their stuff in a civil matter. I am just shocked at what they said about my parents

PLEASE HELP as now its getting to a point where its causing problems between my fiance and I =(

The wedding has not happened and his family is already talking crap about your family. Your fiance is already starting to make excuses for their behavior. This was arranged so its not like you’re super “in love” with him.

Can you please explain why you even want to go through this marriage right now? Do you honestly believe their behavior will get better AFTER the wedding? Right now, this is their “best” behavior.

Do not for a single minute think that the in-laws will change after the wedding. And it looks like your fiance is already making it clear that he will stand by his family. You really need to think about whether or not you want to spend the rest of your life dealing with this behavior.