Hi guys. I’m back with another dilemma.
I’m thinking of doing a trial separation with my husband as things are not working out and its not been good for a while now. It’s got to the point where we are both getting on each others nerves. his drinking is still bad and thats making him worse. I’m losing a lot of respect for him and I dont know if I even love him anymore.
I’m thinking if I move him into the spare room we can have a bit of space and if I set out some rules, like getting your own meals and washing up minding our own businesses. He can go out as much as he likes and he cant tell me what to do. Just so he can get a feel of what it would be like to separate for real. What do you think. One problems would be explaining it to the kids.
Any suggestions would be welcome.
Thanks
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Can you give us a bit of a background? I may have read your other issue, but with a few million female guppans and 90% of them going thru relationship problems, it is a bit difficult to keep a track of what happened with whom.
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her hubby’s a drunk…and some other stuff i don remember 
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Sara, itna tou I could figure out from her post above. Bewakoof laRki.
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Background information can be found here … (I hope you don’t mind me bringing up your old threads EJ)
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/search.php?searchid=414261
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. You need to get out of that environment and get your kids out of that environment too. Living in seperate rooms is just going to confuse them more. Plus, I don’t think your husband will get the hint.
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Abay tum loug mujhay kabhi kisi laRki say baat karnay bhi dou ge ke nahi? 
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This isnt a good solution, wont work. Things will turn out to be the same cause really nothing has changed except that he has a different bed to sleep in. More upsetting to kids and everyone else concerned. Better to take off with the kiddies to a relatives place or ship him out to his relatives place for a breather. If its a trial separation that is necessary to show him, then you need to SEPARATE!! - ie NOT be there!
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I’m not bewakoof
Dude just get out.. kick his sorry pathetic ass outta ur house (if itsurs).. :no:
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bad idea, he will go looking for another gal if u do this, u never know maybe he will get sick and tired of these rules and the chores that he would have do for himself, which could force him to marry again.
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^ speaking from experience, thats the wrost thing you could ever do to yourself.
There will be a time when you'll be ready to gauge out your eyes or kill him and claim insanity.
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get out,
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*I'm not sure why you're hoping for a miracle. Do you honestly believe he will change b/c you're making him sleep in a different room? How much longer do you want your kids to stay in this situation? *
Please remember, he is NOT going to change his behavior. Now the question is whether or not you're going to subject your children to growing up in this enviornment. If you want to, then just stay in the house. If not, then either you move out of the house and take the children with you, OR you make him move out of the house completely.
Moving in a different room in the same house isn't going to change anything.
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How can something that makes you sad, makes you stay?
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one solution to cure a drunk, if u chose to accept it will get rid of him for good or make sure he never drinks again, is as follows:
go to ure local hardware store and ask for something that will help unblock the kitchen sink. take what ure given and make ure husband a dry/sponge cake type dessert for after supper, making sure u add loads of the thing u got from the hardware store (caustic soda), also make sure u get a can of his favourite drink..hieneken whatever.
After he's eaten, serve him his 'dessert', as soon as he's finished, challenge him to drink a can of lager in 8 seconds, male pride an all that..........sit back (and watch him explode), if he dies, he's outta ure life for good, if he survives, the burns his throat sustain will ensure he never drinks again.......not just alcohol.
warning: the above WILL cause extensive injuries to ure alcoholic hubby's and there's a HUGE chance that he WILL die.
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^ LOL
Ebrima - you are still in this relationship!! hallelujah!!
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EJ as many mentioned above - moving to a seperate room won't help you or the children.
Think about those kids they are so young they don't deserve to see so much rudeness by their father. Man they suppose to look up to hasn't done much for them.
EJ after this he will probably bring another girl in the house. i dont think you will go very far.
Ej get out of it for your kid's sake its extremely difficult to raise kids on your own but i am sure with some dignity and help of few friends you will get some where good.
Those kids don't deserve this!
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Thats my type of idea 
but i would not want to kill him - i like to make people suffer in these situations.
how about basi doodh ka cream cheese cake or Jamaaal gotaa..
one would not want to go to jail after using your idea chacha khan..
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hahahh
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but i would not want to kill him - i like to make people suffer in these situations. ..
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well he’ll suffer, anymore and it would be cruel…don’t u think.
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one would not want to go to jail after using your idea chacha khan..
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u want me to tell u how to get away with it too?..