In desperate need of advice before i do something really stupid

[rabia3983]

Re: In desperate need of advice before i do something really stupid

@Reha

Husband is an utmost priority as his wife should be for him

But his family…I think they’re important but not like the typical saas-nand drama type important. They should have their own lives and should not need to be important for you…its strange to me. I don’t feel the need to be important to others…so why the desperation ke koi humko ehmiyat de? These are all aurton ki harkatein and that’s why I said…this is his mom talking.

Focus on YOUR life…your parents and his family will eventually get on with their own lives…but you’ll be left with this guy who wants to control you. Think about only yourself…no one else right now. Baqi sab ro dho ke apne ghar chale jayengay. In the end, it will only be you and him…so at this point…sit down and gather your thoughts. What do you want? Do you want him? If you do…be smart and learn to deal with him. If you don’t…arm yourself with some courage and do what you need to do.

Again, I don’t agree with you. You are generalizing and assuming. Evil mothers are not always behind a bad guys/son/husband. Some guys are just like that, they feel they have to control their life and that including their mother and wives.

I do agree with Focusing on herself. OP should make decision which makes her comfortable not her husband or father.

the type of personality you are talking about (i don’t need attention and don’t need to give attention,) wouldn’t work out in the family OP is describing. They have already had fights over attention. This is something to considered before entering into a relationship, at this point she should consider how to work it out…if its possible or not