in a rut

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Re: in a rut

@PyariCgudia

She spells like that and she has so many rishtas that she can’t choose?

Attn: to all desi single men

girls like me raise smart kids, you frikkin morons.

You just crack me up woman!

@soni27

thnks zobia .. but i feel really confused n its making me sad n i feel like crying .. moms confusing me saying conflicting stuff doign conflicting stuf.. n my mind i dunno but deep down maybe i dont liek any of htem but i just gota choose or maybe i feel thsi way cause im really sad about the firt engagemnt ending terrible.. i dun wana regret tomrrow after the marraige n start crying or have a panic attack like ‘omg what did i do .. who i have i chosen’ or choose someone where my mom will curse me for the rest of my life or keep scaring me that u picked the wrong guy n now ur life will be messed up for all of eternity .. i feel scared n sad n i m gona cry right now

Soni,

You feel this way because you had a bad experience where despite having normal flaws…the person just wasnt right for you. The thing is, not every man is the same. ALSO…remember…every human being comes flawed…its just the way we’re built. However, you simply need to make sure whether those flaws work for you or not. Just because someone has something wrong with them doesnt make them ineligible…it makes them human. You might get married to a guy and realize he has a quality you dislike. Work with it what you’ve got as long as its jaiz and reasonable.

One more thing…reality of this situation is that you are the one getting married. Its not your mom that will have to put up with this guy, not your dad, not your brother, not your neighbor, chacha, taya or anyone else for that matter. Just you. The basics should be there though like education, respect, care, etc.

Your priority is to make sure he works for YOU first and then anyone else. Baaqi sab Allah pe chordo.