say u have lots of rishtas/guys who r interested in u .. how do u make up ur mind n choose final final ?
Re: in a rut
lots of rishtas , tht must b countable u should tell us the exact figure 
Re: in a rut
spin the bottle innit.
Re: in a rut
say u have lots of rishtas/guys who r interested in u .. how do u make up ur mind n choose final final ?
I get that "lots" of rishtas are interested in you....but are you also interested in ALL those guys? Not one single guy stands out? Either in looks or personality wise?
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Another option , write down the names of all the candidates on small cards , go for *Lucky draw /paper balloting***
Re: in a rut
I get that "lots" of rishtas are interested in you....but are you also interested in ALL those guys? Not one single guy stands out? Either in looks or personality wise?
see with the rishtas i dun knw those guys personally .. n with the guys .. they r friends/ acquaintances .. n with them theyr r different things ttht r in each of them tht stand out .. but im just confused like what things exactly i should go for sice this will be life long commitment ..
i dunt want to make a mistake bcs i now im naive n this is an important decision .. i dun know who to liste to .. whos gving me sincere advice .. smtmsi feel puzzled .. n i dun want to dig to deep with these guys bcs then theyll start to thinkim interested if i do that .. know wat i mean? ..
just confused!
Soni, why would you want to get married without digging deep?
Someone once said the first time you buy a house, you go for the pretty paint. The second time around, you check for termites. Be the one that checked for termites.
Look at each of them and find out who you see yourself with.
Dont look for money, look for ambition and education.
Dont look for physical attraction only, look for someone who has a fun and attractive personality.
Dont look for a specific caste or jagah ke laug, look for a good family that is humble and doesnt make demands on your parents.
Re: in a rut
Surly you can't be compatible with all of them? Maybe you need to figure out what is important to you and your family. Agree with what Reha said :-)
Re: in a rut
You do istekhara and ask Allah to guide you to whatever is the best!
Re: in a rut
She spells like that and she has so many rishtas that she can't choose?
Attn: to all desi single men
girls like me raise smart kids, you frikkin morons.
Re: in a rut
She spells like that and she has so many rishtas that she can't choose?
Attn: to all desi single men
girls like me raise smart kids, you frikkin morons.
PCG - we also want good looking kids :@:
Re: in a rut
ur thread reminded me of my thread. goodluck
dont forget to invite me :D
Re: in a rut
inni miniiiii miiyni moo.
well weigh the goods and bads of the dudes (if any) and do istekhara
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She spells like that and she has so many rishtas that she can't choose?
LOL!
Re: in a rut
thnks zobia .. but i feel really confused n its making me sad n i feel like crying .. moms confusing me saying conflicting stuff doign conflicting stuf.. n my mind i dunno but deep down maybe i dont liek any of htem but i just gota choose or maybe i feel thsi way cause im really sad about the firt engagemnt ending terrible.. i dun wana regret tomrrow after the marraige n start crying or have a panic attack like 'omg what did i do .. who i have i chosen' or choose someone where my mom will curse me for the rest of my life or keep scaring me that u picked the wrong guy n now ur life will be messed up for all of eternity .. i feel scared n sad n i m gona cry right now
Re: in a rut
Can someone get me a gin and tonic please?
Thanks.
Re: in a rut
dont pressure yourself. if you dont like any one then dont go for anyone. Its better to be safe than sorry.
and ask your mama that if she would be in your place who would she choose?
btw i closed my thread otherwise I would have write stuff that its really interesting to see how much excited my parents are to find me a nice guy. 
Re: in a rut
Can someone get me a gin and tonic please?
Thanks.
I would highly recommend a vodka shot. It will do you wonders.
Re: in a rut
You just crack me up woman! 
Soni,
You feel this way because you had a bad experience where despite having normal flaws…the person just wasnt right for you. The thing is, not every man is the same. ALSO…remember…every human being comes flawed…its just the way we’re built. However, you simply need to make sure whether those flaws work for you or not. Just because someone has something wrong with them doesnt make them ineligible…it makes them human. You might get married to a guy and realize he has a quality you dislike. Work with it what you’ve got as long as its jaiz and reasonable.
One more thing…reality of this situation is that you are the one getting married. Its not your mom that will have to put up with this guy, not your dad, not your brother, not your neighbor, chacha, taya or anyone else for that matter. Just you. The basics should be there though like education, respect, care, etc.
Your priority is to make sure he works for YOU first and then anyone else. Baaqi sab Allah pe chordo.
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reha thank-you 4 ur sincerity .. i appreciate it