In a messed up situation........ need suggestion

[leo_girl]

Re: In a messed up situation… need suggestion

@zayma

i dont think you should apporach him now if he really wants you loves you or whatever HE should appoarch u hmself and i think u should not really even be in contact with him because proccess will continue him ignorning u and then u running back so del from ur fb del from ur msn and watever else u have him on

I seriously tried to remove him from my all contact lists but i can’t… his phone number is saved in my head… i know if i delete him from my fb i will still visit his profile regularly (we have common friends and i can easily excess his profile through their friendlist)

@zobia

first of you have to put this idea in your head that Izzat-Zillat is all in ALLAH SWT’s hand. Instead of texting him its better you discuss this thing with him in person.

ps. I personally dont think he is interested in you anymore.
ps2. meet him only if you really really interested in him. **dont use him and his emotions only cuz you didnt get any decent proposals. **
ps3. we girls burn bridges when we start acting like wives even though nothing was official at the time.

I am not sure why i can’t forget him. Am i seriously interested in him or just getting frustrated with age . Still when i think about those 6 months i started crying… Is it really love or something else i don’t know.

@redvelvet

Should you contact him after 2 years and ask him wether he is still interested in you or not?

IF he was interested in you…he would have contacted you. And he would have done so with more regularity. Him not contacting you from Mar-Oct is not a good sign. Regardless of how busy he is…he could take at least 5 minutes (even less) to say hello or good night. It seems odd that after such a prolonged period of “no contact”…that he’d propose. I get the feeling that he’s just not that into you.

Have you guys interacted IN PERSON? If not, then maybe that’s something you can try. Meet him for a coffee or something…a face-to-face interaction is different from texting and email…it can give you and him a clearer idea of things. And then address your concerns with him face-to-face and get some direction/closure. If he says that he’s interested in marriage…then decide upon a date where he can bring his family over. And if he doesn’t do it…the move on from him because his actions are not matching up with his words…and the wishy-washiness is not healthy.

Keep in mind though…that when he proposed…you ignored him. He’s got his pride…just like you. It’s hard for most people to consider marriage with someone who previously shot them down. My gut feeling is that he’s not that interested in you. But if you can’t get him off your mind…then meet with him in person to get some closure. This is a complicated mess.

Thats the reason why i try to initiate the contact because i know i have hurt his ego very badly. Every time i contacted him my ego hurt as well but i still tried.

Meet him in person is a good idea. Our common friend can help us but he will come to know that i have told everything to this common friend and most probably he won’t like this. Our common friend wants to talk to him but he needs my permission and don’t let him. I don’t know may be it will worsen the situation.

@zobia

Do istakhara and if its positive then send him a sorry card with a $5 giftcard of his favorite store.
**instead of crying over it in your 50s that why didnt you take any initiatives, if he is worth to be with then even if u lose anything then time-tears wise it will be a gain. **

what is there to lose? your ego- self respect??? well if he is not in your life then why bother worrying about what he thinks about you and what not.

That’s why i want to try last time but i am not sure how? He is very well educated, belongs to a very respectable family, have a good job, liberal and very ambitious i think he has everything what a girl wants.