Re: importing groom from home country :-\
Plenty! I’m having a “love marriage” myself and majority of the people I know in real life are also having or have had love marriage. And issues such as where they will live, careers, kids etc. are discussed before hand and are not “empty” promises. These aren’t even “promises”…these are AGREEMENTS between 2 mature adults who want to spend the rest of their lives together. Nikah is a contract…and just like any other contract, certain conditions must be agreed on between the 2 parties (whether its a love or arranged marraige). In my humble opinion, people who do this as " ikthay jeenay marney k promises " weren’t mature enough for marraige to begin with.
IF the girl agreed to live in Pakistan after marriage and she “changed her mind” immediately after marriage…while being fully aware that this was a deal-breaker for the guy…then yes, I agree that he was deceived to a certain point. BUT…here is what I don’t understand…for guys AND girls for whom location is such a big issue…why even bother looking outside your country?! In your scenario, since your friend is to adamant in living in Pakistan that he’ll divorce his wife of 4 months…a woman he was supposedly in love with for 7 YEARS…well then why didn’t he CHOOSE to find a wife in Pakistan?
And as someone else mentioned…guys from the U.S. “import” girls…so why is that ok? You statement that girls have to “do it anyway” is not a good defense to your argument. Yes, girls have had to move to different cities/countries for marriage for a LONG time…but on the other hand, MEN have had to move for studies/jobs to different cities/countries forever too. It’s not like men are allergic to re-locating to a different country!
On a side note…just as on FYI, I didn’t make the comments about “respect”…that was another poster. 