Re: Important questions to ask
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15 minutes is more than enough to suss out a misogynistic or a close minded fool. Questions about religion, morality, feminism, politics, environment will easily give me a good idea about the person. It's unrealistic to ask those questions on the first meeting because you don't want to scare anyone off in real life without easing them into the conversation but ideally those are the ones I would want to ask first.
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I'd probably spend ten minutes trying to think of a good question then five more minutes to gather up the courage to actually say something
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Sign of a confident man ...
Actually, he was. After our marriage he told me "When I came to see you, I had come with the intention of making you my wife".
masha Allah. so, the "YES" came after the "time alone"...kia jaadoo kar diyaa thaa bechaare par? :D
vaise, did you ask him if he was pressured into marrying you? :p
Our 'yes' was more for both of us, rather than our families.
I asked him AFTER our marriage if he was pressured. , well a bit too late for that. Obvioulsy he said 'No'
Through good and bad, ups and downs, sickness and health....we have made it through 25+ years of marriage. And iA, iA, to many more years together.
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In an arranged marriage set up, if you had 15 minutes to meet the guy and decide yay or nay, what would you ask?
I think my first would be, what are your expectations from your wife? Next, How do you envision your married life? What else should be asked to get a vague idea?
What are your views on religion and how practising are you?
Similar to above but would ask about culture
Would you be ok with me working?
Where would we be living?
I think these are going to affect a wife's practical life more than anything.. Most of the problems for newlywed girls seem to concern the last thing so I'd definitely ask that..
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Alone time is fine, but sometimes when the guy is even interacting with your family members and greeting everyone you can get an idea of what type of person he is.
You just need to be a good observer.
I never had an arranged marriage myself, so I'm not really sure how the alone time and questions would play out, but I would assume if there was anything on my mind, I would ask... like does he mind being married to a woman that works full-time, how the home dynamics would play out, what his future plans/aspirations are... and of course if he's genuinely interested in me and this marriage.. but hopefully he would ask that first.
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On 2nd thought, in 15 min all you can say. "ayee tu apni marzi sai ho per jaoo gai mairey marzi say Hooo haha hooo haha"
and see if he stays.