important 4 marriage( looking 4 a boy)

[fazeelat]

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@decent_Felow

daaaal chawal khabi kah ka dekh nah kitnay mazai ka hotai hain…yoon daaaal chawaloo koo badnaam nah karai

but i dont like daal chaawal…and unluckily my hubby’s most fav. dish DAAL CHAAWAL:no:. n my mom now usually says “mein kehti thee naa itny nakhray naa kiya kro”

[fazeelat]

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congrats....ASSWEETAS is aslo pathan

[fazeelat]

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hi everybody,

I have a problem! my mom is looking for a boy 4 me, but i don't wanna marry any guy they say. i want someone i like..but my mom and dad have some things. like he has to be pathan( not peshawar or afganistan, but like lodhi ect.) and from a good family..good educated...

i'm 25 years old en living in europe..i'm born there...so anyone who has the same story and is from a good fam ( mayby khan )...and looking for a girl ..let me know and mail me ..i know it sounds stuppid...but im really not a person that wanna post a topic like this..i heard my friend someone on internet and she is happy married now...so we will see

byeeee

look how active i m in finding ur desired boy...itnay pathan dhoond liye hein. n i think here our guppies r so nice atleast not dishonest inshaAllah. u can talk to them.

[ASA]

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@ImranQ

If you are serious then look around you in college, workplace, community activities, social gatherings. There are countless good guys out there. Having said that, you must first consider the guy your parents are to choose for you if he doesn’t fit your criteria introduce them to someone you like.

i’ll kill you imran… how you forgot your friend… haaN bacho ab tum kahaN hamari fikar karogay…

[fazeelat]

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@AsSweetAs

i’ll kill you imran… how you forgot your friend… haaN bacho ab tum kahaN hamari fikar karogay…

:bash:

dost , dost naa raha.
pyar,pyar na raha
zinndaggggi hamein tera…aitbaar na raha:gadha:

[sheyn]

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@meemsaab

sorry guyz ,but i am serious!!!

its the stuppidst thing i ever did. but u never know

And imran ji ..bolo

@meemsaab

u guyz r right about that someone can pretend...but what should i do .

i don't believe in cast , but my parents do!!

Meemsaab ....it may feel like a "stupid" thing to do but i can understand why u need to take matters into ur own hands esp having lived abroad it is very difficult to adjust to concepts back home.........and NO i'm not saying girls who live abroad are "westernised" or liberal in their thinking but more "aware "of their rights and have certain "expectations" from a spouse or his family as well as how they want to live their married life whereas back home these things are restricted to a large extent...esp . concept of joint family which is okay in all however a newly married couple requires space and privacy to grow to trust and love each other "without" external influences.........

Neways cutting things short ...wish u best of luck with your endeavour , Just please remember to let your head rule u rather than your heart esp where online "romances" are concerned.........

[Monk]

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@meemsaab

hi everybody,

I have a problem! my mom is looking for a boy 4 me, but i don’t wanna marry any guy they say. i want someone i like..but my mom and dad have some things. like he has to be pathan( not peshawar or afganistan, but like lodhi ect.) and from a good family..good educated…

byeeee

I speak pashto too.. sa hal ahwal dy? kha dy?

[canpaki]

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y dunt u jus see the guy ur parents want u to marry?....maybe ull like him..

obv they aint gna force uu:)

[meemsaab]

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thanks all ...i understand ..

and i think u guyz r right. marrying were ur parents want isn't that bad. ts not as scary as looking 4 someone online!!! i quite, no ristha anymore

[Monk]

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thanks all ...i understand ..

and i think u guyz r right. marrying were ur parents want isn't that bad. ts not as scary as looking 4 someone online!!! i quite, no ristha anymore

u may miss some thing -worth keeping

[Let_Uz_Chat]

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@fazeelat

but y u want ur merzi?

let it on ur parents....coz they have experience n believe me parents kee khushi mey Allah kee khushi hoti hy.

n guys... some Khaandani families dont like to make daal chaawal(out of caste), koi kasmiri, koi butt, koi arain.

What a dumb thing to say! Let It on your parents, they are experienced. Parental experience wrecked a life of a very close person in my family whose identity i won't reveal. If your experience is good then don't think it'll be good for others also.

[aliyahali]

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Are Lodhis pathan though?

And what is it with Punjabi Pathans? Does such a thing exist??

[fazeelat]

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@#let uz chat#

What a dumb thing to say! Let It on your parents, they are experienced. Parental experience wrecked a life of a very close person in my family whose identity i won’t reveal. If your experience is good then don’t think it’ll be good for others also.

i think ur relative parents must b also disobedient wid their parents.if u do ur own merzi might possible u found ne problem, so there would b no parents…jin k kundhay pe sir rakh k ro sako, lakin...but with their opinion u have ur parents to share ur probs.

[Let_Uz_Chat]

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@fazeelat

i think ur relative parents must b also disobedient wid their parents.if u do ur own merzi might possible u found ne problem, so there would b no parents…jin k kundhay pe sir rakh k ro sako, lakin...but with their opinion u have ur parents to share ur probs.

So according to you, one must have been disobedient towards their parents for them to have had a tough marriage afterwards! It worked well in your case but it’s not the same for everybody. The person in question had a gr8 childhood and wasn’t disobedient towards h-- parents but h-- marriage was a disaster. So there goes another theory of yours down the drain.

[Minerva]

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@fazeelat

but y u want ur merzi?

let it on ur parents....coz they have experience n believe me parents kee khushi mey Allah kee khushi hoti hy.

n guys... some Khaandani families dont like to make daal chaawal(out of caste), koi kasmiri, koi butt, koi arain.

hahahah, daal chawal. So, those who allow their kids to marry outside their castes are not khandani. interesting!

[AnGeL_EyEs]

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@fazeelat

but y u want ur merzi?

let it on ur parents....coz they have experience n believe me parents kee khushi mey Allah kee khushi hoti hy.

n guys... some Khaandani families dont like to make daal chaawal(out of caste), koi kasmiri, koi butt, koi arain.

But in Islam....a person has a right to pick who they want to marry!

The decision should not be left entirely on the parents. Afterall it is the son/daughter that is going to be spending the rest of their life with that person...they should have some say in it.

Parents however do look out for the child's best interest (in most cases).....so it doesnt hurt to keep an open mind and consider their options as well.

[indopak]

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well the online thing is nice for people that it has worked out for but many times a person's personality might not be what it was online or there might be a "wolf in sheep's clothing" thing that might happen. Please please don't jump into an online marriage just to go against your parents or only for the reason that you want to pick your husband yourself

If you are close to your family than most of time I think the guy they pick(family friend or a guy they've known for years) might be best since obviously in this case the families will always get along and there won't be that many family problems.
Plus, your family probably has checked everything in terms of compatibility between both of you. So give this guy a try and see if you like him.

A guy who you meet online might not treat your family properly or might end up being a complete jerk, but I guess if you're lucky then all things might work out but these are the exceptions I think.

[PrinceMS]

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I suggest join some local social clubs of Pathan / Afghani etc. Could be a student association, could be a professional networking group etc. Don't state your goals, just see what world brings to you.

[bisoux]

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[shriek11]

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@aliyahali

Are Lodhis pathan though?

And what is it with Punjabi Pathans? Does such a thing exist??

Bilkul.. lodhi mukammal fake pathan..