Importance of Agreements reached before marriage

[Sehrysh]

Re: Importance of Agreements reached before marriage

@Ashy2010

I have a cousin who has a BDS (dentist) degree. She is not willing to do job after marriage and her family puts this as a condition to the guys families. I wonder if she will be able to stick to her guns after marrying in an arranged setting where majority of the proposals she gets is because they want a doctor (although dentist) bahu. Some of them even offered to open a clinic for their bahu (everyone knows the income levels of dentists) but she is very rigid in her ideas.

Why would she occupy a seat in a professional school if she has no intention of practicing/working in the profession

I am the very first proponent of women being educated - an educated mother is best able to raise enlightened and socially conscious children. And since a mother’s godH is the first dars a child has, it is critical that a mother herself be educated (which I do not necessarily equate to a degree).

But, women who take up seats in professional schools for the sake of building their rishta resumes are selfish. The same seat could have been better given to another woman or man who would be working and using the income to support their family.