Mothers saying bad things about the father in front of the children, getting angry with the child if the child speaks to the father after the mother and father have a fight.
Divorced mothers trying to convince their 5-8 year olds that the man who is their father is a villain and does not love them, whatever care is being shown to them by him is “emotional manipulation”. that when they grow up they owe it to the mothers to be their support b/c they are sacrificing their lives for their kids by not getting remarried. That they word hard from morning to night to support them at the cost of their own health.
Fathers trying to convince their children that their mother has a bad moral character and does not love them, whatever care is being shown to them by her is “emotional manipulation”.
Having a stressful day at work or a fight with a family member and venting by physically or emotionally abusing your child.
The worst thing in the world for a child is to see his or her parents fight, the whole cozy little world breaks apart. The child is already emotionally vulnerable b/c of being a single parent child and going through the divorce of parents, and on top of that is being subjected to this. Where is this going to lead a child, what kind of personality will such a child develop? Will such a child ever be able to be a good spouse or a good parent?
I thought parents were supposed to be selfless? Recently seeing some cases in front of my eyes though has really made me feel like people can be so mean and selfish, normal people like you and me, that they can vent their emotions on their own innocent children not even caring about their emotional well being.
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*Originally posted by irem: *
Sadiyah khatoon...
koi batlayay k hum batlayein kya? :/
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bohat simple, sub bata deen na :)
Wasiey i dont agree, ager Immature ppl ko parents na banney deya gaya tu maturity kahaan sai ayee gee. One feel really matutred and responsible after he/she becomes parent.
Decent but maturing at the cost of the emotional well being of the kids, isnt that too much of a price to pay
and obviously in the cases i mentioned the parents didnt gain the required majority after becoming parents, in some cases after being parents of several children for many yrs
hmm kar le flood coz im doing the same mods aa k safai kar deyn ge i guess tab tak eid mana leTe haen
yaar…nai sheru abt the topic…i dono…i saw some parents behaving like that with their children and it kinda pi$$ed me off k why r they behaving like that with their kids…ye baat thee
Yaar maybe she had a reason for doing that, Maybe she was pi$$ed at her husband cuz of something.. harr cheez ki koi waja hoti hai, we dont kno what they are goin thru…
hmm so you dont think such people should be allowed to become parents?
yaar such people are everywhere, maine wi dekhey hai, yaar yeh to kuch bhi nahi hai, what about daddz who hit their kids juz cuz they were hit as kid? sorry offtapic :-s lekin bas aise harr jhagey honda way, and Allah pak knows whats going on…
hmm..sheru u r rite aisa jhagra hota hae..lekin..its not right na yaar..i mean jus coz she or he is going thru a tuf time, doesnt mean take it out on the kidz
maturity isi ka naam hae na? to have self control
i dont have it either. i also vent my frsutrations/anger on my family. i prolly might even do the same thing when/if i am a parent..and that scarez the heck out of me..coz it is so bad for the kid
kids r sposed to be a naymat from Allah swt and if He is giving a couple a child then Allah swt wants them to have that blessing which many people in this world dont have and by using family planning methods the couple is actually saying NO to this naymat which is a big nashukri.
also, every child that is born, Allah swt provides for the rizq of the child. Allah swt can increase or decrease ur rizq as He wants. the child has his or her own destiny and fate.
soongh is ko 
