Imam Intervention

[Mirch]

@Niksik

We’ve had a case in our family where the couple was just not getting along and they decided to call it quits. At that point we asked them both to see the local Imam who is also a well educated happily married gentleman. They both met him separately, talked out their issues. What the Imam did was clarify some misconceptions on rights and responsibilities but he couldn’t make either of them change their mind. Eventually at the time of divorce, the process was smooth because both parties knew what their Islamic rights were.

At the end of the day, I feel the willingness to change is what could help a relationship and third party intervention, be it family, friends or the Imam just help organize thoughts and perhaps facilitate communication…which is also necessary.

If they had seen a marriage counselor also , the result might have been different . Marriage counselors get to the root cause of the problem and offer practical advice.
Yes marriage counseling does not work in all the case but in the majority of cases. (For support of this argument click here)

I am not opposed to going to Imam , they can instill Islamic wisdom into both parties , but issue can be deep rooted then not following the tenants of Islam for married life.
I am opposed to going to Just the imam and not exploring other options.