Re: I'm scared.....
....i'm not even married but i think that's an exagerated lie. i doubt its painful.
Re: I’m scared…
I shouldn’t’ve said that 
its definitely not as painful as childbirth, but some girls may experience pain and bleeding the first time. Some girls dont’ bleed at all but may feel it, and some just wont feel any pain.
** thats my primary fear :( dont want to scare him with my screams!
come to think of it, i m sure hubby-2-b is scared too!, maybe not !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ohmigosh larki!
Listen, just to put your fears at ease go and visit a gyn and you will be fine.
** thats my primary fear :( dont want to scare him with my screams!
come to think of it, i m sure hubby-2-b is scared too!, maybe not !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Why would he be scared? Is he afraid he might feel some pain too (since that's your main concern)?
Hubnubs, you are so cute. :D
Why would he be scared? Is he afraid he might feel some pain too (since that's your main concern)?
Hubnubs, you are so cute. :D
Haha baychaara might also be nervous. You never know. But definitely go to the gyno ...your fears will seriously subside. A talk with a nice lady doctor will be so comforting for you.
And yes i agree- you are so cute :)
Re: I'm scared.....
No pain no gain..
What? I was also pointing out at saratem's suggestions cause it did not make sense.
My comment was for this part of her worry:
Okay, fear because
1. its happening so quickly
.... weirdo.
Re: I'm scared.....
Hubnubs, listen, the more worked up and nervous you are about it being painful the first time, the more it really will hurt (psychological link).
THERE IS A SOLUTION. There is no hard and fast rule that the deed must be done BEFORE YOU ARE BOTH READY. So after the wedding take it easy and and let it happen whenever you are ready, that way minimal pain (if any).
You don't even have to discuss this with your fiance now, there are 2 people in a marriage, you just have to say what you think afterwards, he should be decent enough to honour that.
Hi Hubnubs
Congratulations!!!
Dont say you dont have any sisters...we are all here for you. And to be honest even if you did have sisters you wouldnt discuss sex with them...well i didn't...too embarassed.
You know just really enjoy your egagement and then your wedding. This time will never come again and it is such a lovely time...and dont even think about other things, easier said than done i know.
Your husband will not feel pain, trust me, not fair! But he will be as nervous as you so he wont rush you. When you get to that stage if you feel pain then stop and try again later, their is no rush and no pressure. He will understand and in a few tries you'll master it and then the pain will be worth it - how batameez am i?!
And labour pain - honey get engaged and married first then worry about that...
xxx
Re: I'm scared.....
lol.. stop fretting about things which u should not at this point. Be happy about engagement and excited about getting married.. I'm sure there will be plenty of time to worry about labor pains and all that ****!
Congrats btw :)
Re: I'm scared.....
take a deep breath and relax. near or towards marriage u can talk abt it with ur partner. i was like u. had tons of fears but this is how nature made us. it helps us to go thru everything.
Hi Hubnubs
Congratulations!!!
Dont say you dont have any sisters...we are all here for you. And to be honest even if you did have sisters you wouldnt discuss sex with them...well i didn't...too embarassed.
You know just really enjoy your egagement and then your wedding. This time will never come again and it is such a lovely time...and dont even think about other things, easier said than done i know.
Your husband will not feel pain, trust me, not fair! But he will be as nervous as you so he wont rush you. When you get to that stage if you feel pain then stop and try again later, their is no rush and no pressure. He will understand and in a few tries you'll master it and then the pain will be worth it - how batameez am i?!
And labour pain - honey get engaged and married first then worry about that...
xxx
thanks! you are so cute!!!!! i got emotional when you said you guys are my sisters!!! thanks!!!!!
It's true, we are! Don't worry about a thing.
If you want to worry about something worry about what you are going to wear and your jewellery...
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Minnie, ur soo nice MashAllah.. All you've written is so good for all the brides to be..
Hubnubs, i can understand ur feelings.. don't worry all will be well InshAllah.