re: I'm offended and angry, how do I communicate it to my husband
I think I can only add more fuel to your story - unfortunately :(
If it's the co-workers throwing the party then your hubby should have taken you to the party! If not then he should not go either - simple as that.
Although I must say that there might be no harm in posing for pictures - I think it's absolutely inconsiderate of your hubby to go and have fun by himself!
Howcome only the guys can go to party and the wify stays home ?
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sorry - my rant is because I personally have similar issue that hubby won't take me to his office party. I do not approve these behavior.