If you're a desi who chooses to live in a gori land, then there are things that you will need to learn how to deal with. In gori-land, hugs and kisses are routine and sometimes expected. But completely without sexual overtone. Both women and men are far more demonstrative and physical, conversation and interaction does involve touching (again, without sexual overtone). Drinking alcohol is viewed as a normal (but NOT required) activity.
So, the hubby who posts his photos online and shows them to his wife, this is a guy who is just "doing as the romans do", just fitting in. I'd be far more worried about the guy who doess not invite the wife and does not show the photos (or worse, tried to hide them!).
You have nothing to worry about. Other than your non-desire to fit in. If you get so upset over this kind of thing, then you should have accompanied your husband and guarded him. You need to get over your repugnance of the smell of beer - heck no one is going to ask you to actually consume it. So maybe open a nearby window or wear more perfume. Or...dont go at all and be secure in the knowledge that your loving husband will doccument his evening and publish the photographs.
I'm sorry if I sound harsh here. I just feel for this poor guy, getting beat up for trying so hard to fit in, doing a good job of it but then getting beat up by his wife who wants to live desi style. Desi-style really cant work in the west without a bit of acceptance. You dont have to partake but you really do need to participate (and note, participation does not require you to forego any or your morals or restrictions).
Well said