^ Yes on all that Masti said. I think another thing you can do is to discuss it with him not only as a religious issue, but explain to him that you behave the way you do and set boundaries out of a deep feeling of respect for him----and you want him to feel the same respect for you and to be mindful of that in his interactions. I think with my husband he responded immediately to my complaint about the shoulder massage because I related it to my love and respect for him, so it touched him more immediately.