Re: I’m attracted to my Phuppo’s son
Inbreeding is not a socially acceptable thing among nondesis. There are exceptions with certain groups (at least in the U.S.) but overall, mainstream society does not accept it as a normal thing. And yes, harsh or not, when you marry someone closely related to you such as a first cousin and produce children with that person, that’s inbreeding.
That being said, you don’t have to tell anyone that he’s your first cousin. I know several Pakistani couples who are first cousins but they don’t advertise that to the non-desis. They simply tell them that the families (their parents) have known each other for years and that’s how they met.
No one can tell you the chances of your future child having health problems if you marry your first cousin. It could happen even if you marry a unrelated guy. The odds increase when it’s your first cousin and that’s just a blind risk you’ll have to take if you choose to pursue this.
The part in red makes it seem like you’re settling. How old are you and how long have you been rishta searching? If there was a “long line of men waiting to marry” you…would you still consider this cousin as your #1](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=1) choice? You said he’s a good son/brother etc…that’s great. But what attracts you to him beyond that? Do you talk to him regularly and know his personality well?