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so i decided to go with you guys
i'm not gonna bother that guy , i will also start ignoring him
but what i personally feel is better to hate someone then ignoring
and what i came to know is he has bit of caste feeling and he came to know about my caste by my surname recently and he start ignoring me very disgusting isn't it
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definitely not worth your time then
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so i decided to go with you guys i'm not gonna bother that guy , i will also start ignoring him ** but what i personally feel is better to hate someone then ignoring**
and what i came to know is he has bit of caste feeling and he came to know about my caste by my surname recently and he start ignoring me very disgusting isn't it
why do you want to hate when you don't have much of a reason to?
i feel this whole situations been given more attention/importance by you than it deserves.
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Wow.. i never knew guys could fret over some thing that much.. dude.. by No means was that guy obligated to help u or ne body.. and frankly what difference did it make.. ur wife made it and shes enjoying.. thats what counts.. i mean if some one had offered some thing that would change her Life and not done it may be i would understand.. but comon.. its done. let it be.. and u dont have to be an extremist.. that either u are gona ask him for personal favors or u are Just gona hate him.. doesnt make sense.!!
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I understand what you mean, Humanity.
You shared and got it off your chest.
The thing is, the world is FULL of ignorants.
Its better to say NO, then assuring another person
of a sudden kind of help. Its a not a khandani approach.
Because you are a helpful soul, dont expect other people
to have same approach. My mamajaan is travelling with another
aunti at summer to PK. I booked their seats and aunti wont had
travelled without the help of my mamajaan. She has been very
down health wise, if khuda na khasta something happened,
she knows my mamajaan will deal with it promtly. They are our
friends since childohood. Her sons are like counsins to me......
Either you got it, or you dont.
Keep helping without getting hurt, and expect nothing from
human beings. Nayqi kar aur darya mein......
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I understand what you mean, Humanity. You shared and got it off your chest. The thing is, the world is FULL of ignorants. Its better to say NO, then assuring another person of a sudden kind of help. Its a not a khandani approach.
Because you are a helpful soul, dont expect other people to have same approach. My mamajaan is travelling with another aunti at summer to PK. I booked their seats and aunti wont had travelled without the help of my mamajaan. She has been very down health wise, if khuda na khasta something happened, she knows my mamajaan will deal with it promtly. They are our friends since childohood. Her sons are like counsins to me......
Either you got it, or you dont. Keep helping without getting hurt, and expect nothing from human beings. Nayqi kar aur darya mein......
well said
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Humanity, in this situation I think you were the jerk not this other guy. You were being a 'chipkoo' and instead of being rude the guy was civil and gave you an email address. However, you continued to be a 'chipkoo' going as far as asking him multiple times to help your wife. You put him in a very uncomfortable situation, nobody's gonna say "screw you I'm not going to help your wife", any decent person would say "sure, I'll do what I can".
I think you expected too much from a stranger. It doesn't matter how long you spent in a cubicle with him, maybe he just didn't like you. Things aren't black and white like friend or enemy, it's colleague, acquaintance, friend, good friend, best buddy. He was just a colleague and you imposed.
Perhaps he didn't help your wife for fear that she might have been like you where if he gave an inch she would take a yard. If he helped with her luggage she might have expected him to arrange for room/board, transportation, meals. To be perfectly honest, I don't blame him for anything he did, I blame you. He doesn't/didn't owe you anything.
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*Humanity dont get me wrong here but just because a person is nice to u does not mean that he is ur friend.
Understand the sign dear ,he just want to be nice with u n thats all.May be he already have friend but wut he did with ur familly was pathetic but dear u can not trust some one like that with ur family.I know u care n all but u just cant...the way i see it ,u r the nice guy n he is the guy who should not be taken as a friend.
I hope wut i wrote was help ful n sorry if it sounds personal.
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The guy shouldn't have offered to help if he wasn't going to during wife's journy. Everyone somehow misses this important point.
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^He didn't offer -- he was asked.
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^He didn't offer -- he was asked.
But he agreed and said yes is what I meant.
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he didn't decline. he acted like a jerk. i'd say not friend material, move on, confrontation would be useless.
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why do you want to hate when you don't have much of a reason to?
i feel this whole situations been given more attention/importance by you than it deserves.
I am pretty sure he was forced to take importance if this by the hue & cry of his wife.
There is a sure, tried and simple remedy for not getting hurt: Reduce your expectations!
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GOD PEOPLE ARE SOOO RUDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
that is all i can say......u did nothing wrong u asked politely and he agreed and he didnt follow thru. he is a rude rude person...but unfortuanyly there are many in this world...hence people resposes above!
i was on a long flight myself and there was a woman w. her 2 kids ad i helped her along the way and i am a 100 lb woman who is not handy but i lifted her stroller, helped w. her bags watched her kids while she got her bags...some people dont have the fortune to travel w. husb or someone as it might be any emergenycy...its common human courtesy!
he is obviously one of those people who hates himself and his own kind....is he more friendly w. white people..becaue i know many desi's like that....they are so insecue in themselves and thier own language they try to compensate by being around others like white people. i would ignore him and if u do happen to run into him ...i would metion his lack of help but in a fun way or sarcastic way dont make it look like u care so much say somethg like oh she handled the flight well...it ok u didnt have time to help even thogh u said u would but dont worry about it.
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My wife a well educated and she is into software too, i never had any problem when she travelled alone only thing is for the first time she is travelling with 10 months old kid , i only asked to help her when she want refresh someone should take care of baby
other wise i would not have asked anyone
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GOD PEOPLE ARE SOOO RUDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
that is all i can say......u did nothing wrong u asked politely and he agreed and he didnt follow thru. he is a rude rude person...but unfortuanyly there are many in this world...hence people resposes above!
i was on a long flight myself and there was a woman w. her 2 kids ad i helped her along the way and i am a 100 lb woman who is not handy but i lifted her stroller, helped w. her bags watched her kids while she got her bags...some people dont have the fortune to travel w. husb or someone as it might be any emergenycy...its common human courtesy!
he is obviously one of those people who hates himself and his own kind....is he more friendly w. white people..becaue i know many desi's like that....they are so insecue in themselves and thier own language they try to compensate by being around others like white people. i would ignore him and if u do happen to run into him ...i would metion his lack of help but in a fun way or sarcastic way dont make it look like u care so much say somethg like oh she handled the flight well...it ok u didnt have time to help even thogh u said u would but dont worry about it.
Excuse me!
Perhaps desis who avoid other desis are sick and tired of the stupid cultural expectations, like humanity had of this guys, and would rather not trouble themselves with retarded desis!
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I had a discussion with him today but not regarding this, he got his H1 rejected due to the bloddy lottery thing and i just said don't worry better luck next time and not even mentioned about the travel but asked about his vacation
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good...u did right..and seee KARMA!!
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good...u did right..and seee KARMA!!
who is KARMA
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it is made with chicken, like chicken karma. usually eaten with naans and stuff