How do you feel when your two best friend care for each other… share everything to each other… they say you are their best friend too but never ask about your problems… if ever you try to tell them they just don’t take much interest. if you call one of them the topic would be another friend.
most of the times you feel ignored… would you distant yourself from them or talk to them about your feeling as a last try… :hinna:
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meaning you're the third wheel?
A friendship requires nurturing from both ends. If people don't want to nurture a friendship with you, means they really dont care. Go find other people to hang out with. And FYI, can I please tell you from my own awful experiences - do not trust people. Really don't. Go hang out, have a good time, some light conversation and jokes and share some yummy food, but dont expect people to be there for you cuz when you need them, they wont be there. That's guaranteed.
shrugs
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^PCG yes i am
I am always there for them..... and its not easy for me to distant myself from them.......... specially the one.......... ewwww.............i don't know what to do..............
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CF: I am agree with PCG.
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You'll be FINE. Move on and find better and more fun people to hang out with.
:)
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I AM OVER THAT PHASE! :p... HELLO, NEXT TOPIC PLEASE..
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If that is the case then both of them are not your "best friends". Distant yourself from them instead of telling them your feelings & they will get the hint.
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You were born alone and you will die alone! DONT FORGET THIS PLEASE!!!
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You'll be FINE. Move on and find better and more fun people to hang out with.
:)
they are not bad people PCG except that they are self centered i guess. I am kind of girl who always try to help her friends but usually don't open up easily with people. so i thought in starting that it is my own fault. but when i try to tell them my problem.... and they ask kia howa....... and i reply them "bas yaar kia bataoon lambi story hai" they never ask again........ and other friend just ignore it............ i juts tried once or twice...........
I really have a good time with them...... one has left the uni already.............. and i don't talk much with other one.......... but sometimes it really hurts that the other one who used to care about me (little bit) when i was with her (who has left the uni and we had group of three)............. don't care about me anymore..............
p.s. i don't have any other choice rite now in uni. :(
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You were born alone and you will die alone! DONT FORGET THIS PLEASE!!!
Despite that reality, human beings still have a need for socialization.
CF, do you usually ask them about their problems/what's going on their lives? If not, then it could encourage them to ask about yours in return. Is is possible that you frequently bring up your problems and at some point they became tired of it? Excessive venting can drain even your best friends of energy. I'm** not **accusing you of anything; just putting forth possibilities.
I'd suggest that you talk to your friends about how you feel because this would give them the chance to work with you in correcting the problem. After the discussion....if you STILL feel that they're not reciprocating, then you need to find new friends. Rather than chase after something and causing yourself to feel hurt time and again, channel that energy into more positive activities and people. It may not seem like it now, but I've found that it's liberating to let go of toxic relationships...it saves you time and further heartache.
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Despite that reality, human beings still have a need for socialization.
CF, do you usually ask them about their problems/what's going on their lives? If not, then it could encourage them to ask about yours in return. Is is possible that you frequently bring up your problems and at some point they became tired of it? Excessive venting can drain even your best friends of energy. I'm** not **accusing you of anything; just putting forth possibilities.
I'd suggest that you talk your friends about how you feel as this would give them the chance to work with you and correct the problem. After the discussion....if you STILL feel that they're not reciprocating, then you need to find new friends. Rather than chase after something and causing yourself to feel hurt time and again, channel that energy into more positive activities. It may not seem like it now, but I've found that it's liberating to let go of toxic relationships...saves you time.
They don't know about my problems. i never vent in front of them... i am very happy-go-lucky girl type in front of them mostly. Once we talk and i try to tell her my problem very first time.... but she didn't take any interest. But whenever she is upset... she calls me and discuss her every problem. i remember when her cousin died she called me at 1 am to tell me the news.......... she really admires me..... but may be she is self centered girl who thinks that only she has problems. I don't know but i think i should talk to her. She doesn't know any of my secret.
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Like I said....if you want to give this one more chance....then do so. Talk to them about how you feel and if they STILL ignore you after that....then obviously they have no consideration for you even after you expressed your concerns....and it would be an even more clear indication for you to drop them and move on with your life.
Does keeping them in your life make you feel good? Is it helping you in any way? Is it some "farz" that you have be friends with them? No. Value and respect yourself enough to know when you should let of things.
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^ Nice
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its ok, keep ur teeny tiny issues to urself.If they would care they would ask.yup
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Cutefifa i feel sympathy for your feelings. My advice would be to toughen up, girlfriends ignoring you and making you feel low is hard to take. But its not the end of the world. People and friends do move on. You will move on too, eventually. Time heals everything.
You will meet new people and friends, its gauranteed. In life you will only meet a handfull of people you will truly call friends for life.
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Exactly what pcg said.
Oh and its not all about you.
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You should be able to identify your friends. We can be friends with soooo many people but true friends are only few. Friendship like every other relation is a two way street. CF, you have been observing the behaviour of these friends so you should stop considering your friendship to these people as something deep. You have tried them so many times but they haven't been upto your expectations. You also need to analyse yourself whether you have been upto their expectations or not. If you are satisfied about your contribution in the friendship, and if you still feel they are not playing their part, you need to be clear that this is not a kind of friendship where your needs of sharing your problems are fulfilled.
You must have some good friends also who would be there for you always. Focus on them.
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I am ignoring my friends these days!....
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Be a friend to all, socialize, but dont expect them to be or call them your best friends until they prove to be. Like all other relationships, friendship demands equality too. So if your friends are not as nice to you as they are to each other, and they dont treat you the way they treat each other, maybe your best friend vacancy is still vacant and needs to be filled in :)
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"maybe your best friend vacancy is still vacant and needs to be filled in" excellent perspective, very well said.