ignorance at its best: Inettiquette of prospecting parents of males

scenario: a proposal seeking couple for their good for nothing son come up to a 19 year old girl’s parent’s house. she goes to college and has aspiration to study abroad in UK.

they ask everything about her and her parents’ back ground.
after looking at the girl, they inquire about the other daughter as in also taking a look at her for their son.
and then they question, who will work and when will she get her nationality.

this couple is originally from lahore and not too educated. they own a business and son has been working consulting contracts in entry level IT.

how do you educate such a family about the ethics of proposal making for someone’s daughter?
what right does such greedy, absolutely ignorant people have to see the sister compete for their son?
what role can boys/ men adap in preventing their parents from acting as insolent and ignorant people in the context of prospect seeking?

just when will Pakistani double standard parents will come to realize that their own son/s can be humiliated as such, as well?

reflect your thoughts on this and please objectively come up with soltions that we all can put in place to check this when our daughters and sons may get sttled withone another, through the conventional manner of arranged marriage.

Best,

Dushwari

Re: ignorance at its best: Inettiquette of prospecting parents of males

Well said Dushwari... Its a very relevant topic and surely awareness needs to be created about it.

I think it can start from our generation. Someone must stand up politely and talk to parents that we kids are not for sale, as if some customer comes and looks at us inside out.. (well i am a guy but i understand how girls would feel when they are made showpieces).

When i got married i made sure that this was not done.

Re: ignorance at its best: Inettiquette of prospecting parents of males

I also believe that we must educate ourselves as well as others about our religion. People have become so materialistic. For so many, a British or American nationality is so important. Yeah its good but at the end of the day its Allah who gives rizq where ever you are ...

Anyway, the more important thing is the utilization of media and mobilizing the youth about this issue. It does need a major cultural transformation. And i strongly believe that the youth of today if educated have a lot of power to change all this by maintaining respect for parents.