Re: IF your MIL wanted to buy you the cheapest gold set, would you mind?
My set was 6 tola and I thought that was huge!
I agree, what about chooorian, are u not getting those, is it only the set, if yes, then 13 tola is quite big for one set, I think she wantet to get a 5 tola set with choorian in total 13 tola,now u might only have the set?!!!
Nadz I was in a similar situation as you. I got married within my family and I was told a thousand negative things about my jewelery, bridal dress, baree clothes from my own aunts. I was always worrying about how everything would turn out. Once I reached Pakistan, and saw all the things that my MIL got me....I was pleasantly surprised....everything was so beautiful!
I would advice you not to trust anyone even if it's your own family. I was really close to my aunts too and it was a shock to realize that on the inside people arent always happy to see someone else flourish.
One year down the road and I have come to the realization that material things do not matter. It's the relationship between you and your husband that matters the most and not how much gold or how many dresses you got from them. If you two are happy, you wouldn't worry about the world...
Re: IF your MIL wanted to buy you the cheapest gold set, would you mind?
thanks guys, your right. i think it has chooriyan too as well. im not sure exactly, but i think chooriyan are 7 and half tola, and set 13 tola......
i dnt know if they are stingy or not, i still cant tell, they have 2 daughters, who are unmarrie, so lets see whne they get married, how many tola they expect from their daughters in laws....
Re: IF your MIL wanted to buy you the cheapest gold set, would you mind?
Nadz this is a very sensitive situation, and it is different for everyone. Your mom may be able to afford to buy you the most expensive jewels, but some other moms may not be able to. SO not everyone can get upset at their MIL and say thinking that my mom would buy me the most expensive one and shes buying me the cheapest one.
Now if your MIL is well off on the other hand, than i guess that is kinda of hurtful. But if they MIL doesnt like you, than wat do you really expect. Any girl that is marrying into a family where the MIL is not necessarily happy should sort of expect to get short handed in the clothes and jewelry department.
But DO NOT say anything to the MIL. She willl tell her son that the bride to be is being greedy and that could be exagerated into her being a gold digger.
I think the bride to be should talk to the groom about it, but dont accuse his mom of being cheap. Just say that I didnt really let the set she picked out, is it possible to pick out another one, in this case you said the MIL bought the set the bride liked with persuasion. Well than the bride got what she wanted.
Re: IF your MIL wanted to buy you the cheapest gold set, would you mind?
Kick away the guy
Very upset and would complain endlessly to my to-be-husband which would make his life hell and then he would tell his cheap mom to buy better jewelry. But that's only me.
HA HA HA Sumroni ....good going :P
Re: IF your MIL wanted to buy you the cheapest gold set, would you mind?
^ i think thats ok if you have a GOOD understanding with ur to-be-husband...cuz if u dont...thn there is a big chance ur life will be in hell too.
I don't think I will ever understand desis' obsession with gold and the quantity of gold. What is even more ridiculous is the fact that many of us girls have lived our lives outside of Pakistan. Where and when exactly do you get to wear a 13 tola ( I've no idea how much one tola is nor do I care) gold set?
Re: IF your MIL wanted to buy you the cheapest gold set, would you mind?
If she buys u crappy stuff she simply isn’t happy wid u…
Re: IF your MIL wanted to buy you the cheapest gold set, would you mind?
wishkamar-- i agree, bring over the diamonds LOL...
Colorful eyes-- you are right, i think if your relationship is starting off this way, than maybe you should seek other proposals.
haha
Re: IF your MIL wanted to buy you the cheapest gold set, would you mind?
How big is 1 tola? How big is 5 tola, like an example? How much is 13 tolay? Totally clueless. I think it's better to get several small sets than a huge one you hardly get to wear.
Re: IF your MIL wanted to buy you the cheapest gold set, would you mind?
Definitely get rid of the guy
Re: IF your MIL wanted to buy you the cheapest gold set, would you mind?
i dont get what the big deal is if she ended up getting you a bigger, nicer set in the end. Obviously she wasn't that hard hearted or stubborn if someone was able to convince her, and like someone said earlier, maybe she was seeing it from her perspective in that she wanted to get you a small, but beautiful set, or something that you would actually wear instead of something big that will sit in a locker.
People wanted larger, heavier sets in the past cause it was for your security....luckily, i dont know a lot of people who've had to sell off their sets for financial reasons.
Re: IF your MIL wanted to buy you the cheapest gold set, would you mind?
Since you obviously would know her better than anyone else here, you can choose which option fits her best and then react accordingly.
Re: IF your MIL wanted to buy you the cheapest gold set, would you mind?
^ And then push her off a railway platform just as the train is speeding past.
:k:
How can you ask your husband-to-be or mil for more “gold” or whatever… just makes you look greedy and materialistic!!
hes my cousin, and because we are in the family,
ive noticed that if you marry out of family, the in laws go over board trying to impress each other. but with inter family marriages, no one needs to do the impressing as much.
and i dnt wana get rid of him hes the most generous man ever, if his mums different well what can we do...
How big is 1 tola? How big is 5 tola, like an example? How much is 13 tolay? Totally clueless. I think it's better to get several small sets than a huge one you hardly get to wear.
1 tola is like 10grams of gold or something, i think in pakistan its slightly more than 10 grams....