oh nadz, another dilemma..it is hard when you are marrying a cousin, there seems to be alot of competition and MIL's love to keep the cost down but also love to brag about what they have done for their DIL.
my mum brought me big sets when i got married and everyone told me how my MIL was being really tight with my gold etc, but u know what when it came down to the everyday practical life, i wore my MIL sets a lot..they were small and looked nice, i didn't wanna wear bulky sets and Nadz how much are you actually gonna wear these sets??
My MIL got chorian made for me and kept going on about how they were 6 tolas or sum thing like that, a few years into marriage my mum went 2 pak and i told her to exchange my bangles for something trendier looking, when my mum went to the jeweler he said that they hardly weighed anything, i think they were under 4 tolas and more gold needed for teh design my mum liked....i mentioned to my MIL that i had given my mum the bangles to get them changed, she immediately went to my parents house to get them from my mum, but by this time my mum had already been to the jewelers, my MIL told my mum to take her with her when she went to collect the bangles, when they did the jeweller kept complaining about how little gold he had to work with, MIL was embarrassed and came home and swore at the jeweler b'cos apparently he doesn't know how 2 weigh gold...lol. my poor hubby copped it later though, he was given a long lecture about how the bangles should have been sent to her and that i had no right to give them to my mum...as the truth was out
anyways i'm not fussed about gold and rarely wear it, but i can't stand the whole advertising that we brough this much gold and what not....we have to pay the Zakat....and the less you have the better, i think mums and MIL's should pay Zakat on the gold which they forced on us :)
right i agree with u kai zakat tou bachoun ko he daynee hotee hai,,like my sister told me kai dont get chorian,cauze daughter's mil got her 12 chorrian nd 2 karay,,insted of chorian ill get her bracelet,,what do u think,,?
sara ,,iknow :) and My sil IS MASHALLA heera..ALLAH agaey bhe acha rakhay ameen