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i'm quite sure he will have a good, solid reason for requesting something like that.. so, most definitely yes, since i respect his thoughts and opinions above anyone else's.
but i've never been in this situation.
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it's like that "friends" episode where joey's gf hates joey's friends and acts all fake with them....similar situation
what would i do, i wouldn't break the friendship if the friends are sweet and supportive, good people, if the reason for wanting me to break it is just b/c he does not like them or has an unnecessary grudge against them then no i would not.
wouldn't you see the spouse/bf/gf/fiance/fiancee in a negative way if they refuse to see the good in your friend
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i've never been in this situation but i also can't imagine my hubby telling me to stop being to stop being friends with someone unless there is a really good reason for it
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what if they don't tell you the reason? Let say A tells her husband she doesn't want him to be friends with B, but its really because B's wife is a little, erm, too friendly as well? Or the other way around. I don't think A will tell her husband why she doesnt want him to be friends with B.
I guess I would stop seeing them.
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Yes and no. It honestly depends on their interactions. If the friend is an unsavory character who my spouse does not like for moral reasons but has been nothing true and good to me, well then he or she is still my friend. I have a good friend who others do not like and my spouse would definitely not like. Womanizer and the like. But for me he has always had my back, always been there when I needed him and vice versa. We are solid friends and if people can not see that well that is is their problem and not mine. I will not break up decades old relations because my spouse "just doesn't like him". It has to be a solid reason where those close to me are in danger or will get into trouble.
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^agreed
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Agree with CM on this one.
So far not had this problem myself… but If there was a Valid reason for me to cut off a freindship I would have already done it without being told… 
That said I have many close friends who come above some of my direct fammily… so it swings both ways. 
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Not unless he gives me a good reason (not things like 'I don't like her family').. It goes both ways, I would never expect him to give up or stop seeing any of his friends either unless there was a really good reason, even if I didn't get on with them..
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if he has good reasons to.
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So is it a safe assertion to make that most women are more willing to give up their friends if their husbands told them to, while more men are more loyal to their friends?
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Yes and no. Woman are taught in Pakistani society that their husband and the family they create is in fact their own and thus they are taught to sacrifice for it. It would also explain how a lot of girls "fall in love" with the guy they are going to have an arranged marriage with. I consider it a form of brainwashing.
Guys have not been taught that by family or by society. They have different sets of responsibilities. They know their job is to their family, their parents and their siblings. In that regard their close and loyal friends also fall into that category. Their job as men is to be loyal to everybody and balance everything they do so that everybody is well taken care off. Women have been taught/brain washed that their husband and their family together is their first stepping stone.
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^ I think ure right.
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What do you mean think? I am always right :D Damn sorry I was told to be humble. Ah yes, so thank you for agreeing with me. :D
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and since that's the case.....that really sucks, no wonder women have so many problems with each other, we're raised to nto take non-marriage relationships seriously.
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Its not that they don't take them seriously. Just no serious commitment because they believe or no they will marry who their family wants them to marry. I do not believe this applies to all desi women. From 2 or 3 generations ago yes. Not so much any more. The concept of a "love marriage" is gaining traction in Pakistan but more so amongst the educated class. The educated Western Elite have taken it a few steps further but that is the societal evolution of the day. Additionally with the social pressure attached to younger marriages (which makes no sense at all), bollywood and the need for modern day companionship you got a powder keg of emotions and drama that even GS can't compare with.
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by non-marriage relationships I meant friendships, not romantic relationships.
I do have to agree with the fact that women are taught their marriage is everything and they must do everything they can to keep family life harmonious; I do agree to that to some extent. From what I have experienced, those "friendships" that u see in movies/TV don't exist in real life--at least not for certain people.
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No questions asked, no discussion etc?
if your husband asked it, I suggest you do it. :)
Trust is good, sara.
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She should do without any questions, i will ask her the reason. Typical Islamic behavior.