If you won't look, you won't find the one.

[Catskin]

Re: If you won’t look, you won’t find the one.

@Hulahoop_Queen

So three years ago, I was ranting to my friend (who passed away, May God give her a place in Jannah) that sometimes I feel terrible because I never ever had any guy who liked me a lot or who I liked a lot. I have had crushes, teenage crushes, Ive had guys show interest in me through other people. So she told me that if I won’t look, I won’t find anyone. She also said it’s because I don’t give anyone a chance (whatever that meant).

So anyways, point here is that my parents are wanting me to get married and they want ME to find someone. Now the problem is that I just cannot find or approach people. All I do is work, study, work, study, chill at home, and hang out with very close friends. I do have guys who would approach me, show interest, and then just disappear (and according to my friends, it’s because I come across as having no interest). Truth is I keep a distance because I feel ‘clingy’ when I initiate conversations with someone, so I just keep away. I would ALWAYS ALWAYS reply to people’s messages etc. but only when they initiate conversations.

So yes, I need tips how to go about this. I am not an introvert btw. I am a bit socially awkward at first though, also can come across a bit intimidating to others. I dont know what to doooo…

So you’re saying you’re shy?

May be you need to work out how to keep them/him interested in order to get to know him/them? Why don’t your parents wanna look for a rishta?