Re: If you won’t look, you won’t find the one.
So three years ago, I was ranting to my friend (who passed away, May God give her a place in Jannah) that sometimes I feel terrible because I never ever had any guy who liked me a lot or who I liked a lot. I have had crushes, teenage crushes, Ive had guys show interest in me through other people. So she told me that if I won’t look, I won’t find anyone. She also said it’s because I don’t give anyone a chance (whatever that meant).
So anyways, point here is that my parents are wanting me to get married and they want ME to find someone. Now the problem is that I just cannot find or approach people. All I do is work, study, work, study, chill at home, and hang out with very close friends. I do have guys who would approach me, show interest, and then just disappear (and according to my friends, it’s because I come across as having no interest). Truth is I keep a distance because I feel ‘clingy’ when I initiate conversations with someone, so I just keep away. I would ALWAYS ALWAYS reply to people’s messages etc. but only when they initiate conversations.
So yes, I need tips how to go about this. I am not an introvert btw. I am a bit socially awkward at first though, also can come across a bit intimidating to others. I dont know what to doooo…
You can always ask for the persons email id and then add them and just chat with them…its much much MUCH easier to talk to someone through chatting then face to face nd then after some time you can talk to them more face to face and it wont be so awkward nd you will be more comfortable instead of keeping ur distance…