Re: If you were a Mother in Law
Um, I think I'd be happy to have DIL who could keep my son in line.
At any rate, TLK, you have to remember that our generation of girls is being raised in a very different environment than our mothers may have experienced. Many Pakistani women of the MIL generation either were not educated or they were but never held jobs. They were taught to be very subjugated to the in-laws, but they were also taught to be subjugated in general - whether its putting up with harassment on the streets, or accepting that unless their dad was prime minister they would never have a chance in politics, etc.
Our generation values individualism way more - does not value the "Allah Mian ki ghayn" approach towards women - believes in female education, female access to jobs, and female independence - believes in a 50-50 balance between husband and wife, etc etc. So, yeah if I had an opinionated, independent, hard-working, productive, and straight up honest DIL, I'd be happy about it.
Here's what I would not want in a DIL:
- Materialistic. She'd leave my son the minute she doesn't get her gold churian. Not acceptable.
- Keeps me from seeing my grandkids. Granted I dont plan on being over their home all the time, but I'd be sooooo happy to be a free babysitter. So, do I want her to have a job? Yeah, so I can have the kids during the day. :D
Erm, other than that - can't think of anything that would severely peeve me off. I would raise my son to make sure he remembers to take care of me financially, if the occasion arose.
But you know, these are things that I, as a DIL, would not have issues with either. shrugs