Whether it is love or arranged, having my future saas like me is really important. In this case, a little more so, because I would have to leave my family and relocate to Dubai. I'm not sure if they would want me to live with them or nearby and it's not like I am in the position to ask at this point. There is no current plan to meet at this point, but his sister told me if her parents come to canada for a wedding they might take a side trip to the States. ehh. If it happens, I'm only going to have like an hour to impress. THis time I have really long hair, which aunties tend to like, and I guess I will stick to Urdu. This is the hard part, I rarely have a chance to speak Urdu anymore so it is not as fluent.
Well fter reading the responses here, I talked to 'THE GUY' about my doubts, and he was pretty understanding :) So I don't know what is going to happen, he's in the middle of his degree so if anything would happen it would be in a year, at the earliest. Allah knows if things will work out or not but if they do, I feel a little more confident about myself :) I think saases just feel like they're losing control over their most valuable 'possession', so I think what my guy should do is include his mom in every discussion and give her importance.
Re: If you found out that your future saas doesn't like you, but the guy is perfect..
I don't know the answer to this question, but if one decides to marry in such a family then one must remember a simple rule. Treat your MIL the way you want your wife to treat your mother.
Re: If you found out that your future saas doesn't like you, but the guy is perfect..
jalebi, although my MIL's didnt dislike me, my inlaws did have a certain pic of me in their mind just because i was frm the west. But once they lived with me and saw that i do all the housework, cooking, cleaning like a bahi backhome would do and understand the language well (punjabi), it didnt matter anymore to them. So chances are, if you do your best to be a part of his family, they will eventually accept you for who you are too.
Re: If you found out that your future saas doesn't like you, but the guy is perfect..
Even if ur MIL LOOOOOOOVED you right now...chances are that once u tie the knot, at one point or another in ur life time with this man....she will hate u for whatever reason. It's natural
Re: If you found out that your future saas doesn't like you, but the guy is perfect..
Did she see you in sweats and a t-shirt, or in very casual clothes? Her fear my just be that you don't care about the Pakistani culture or about propriety and tradition. She'll get over that once she gets to know you. At least she doesn't actually have a real dislike toward you. InshAllah it will all work out well.
Well my guy never talks about any of his family comments (besides positive ones) so I don't know the extent of their objection. Maybe she is concerned i will work after marriage...maybe she thinks being western i have dated lots of guy...maybe she thinks i won't do housework...maybe it's that i'm not hyderabadi and don't know those traditions..the thing is i don't know the exact thing. Obviously she can be assured that i've never dated and i'm also kind of 'ghareloo' but if it's the diff background, then she is right, being Punjabi, I have no idea about Hyderabadi stuff. So...blah...I guess not knowing is the worst thing. Anyway I am gonna chill for a bit because how if i'm getting myself all winded up and it doesn't even work out? So yeah...i'm going to wear my ugly clothes, park my butt on the couch and enjoy my currently single life :)
