Someone in beginning of their professional life, is smart, good looking, excellent career potential, but comes from a family and locality that are not that well off.
Hence the matches they get are sub par.
If you were in such circumstance, would you try to take the best option available or run away and find a new life?
Re: If those around you are not in your league
Hmmm well as a girl, you don’t really have the option to run away and choose a new life. As far as guys go, it’s 50/50.
Re: If those around you are not in your league
Which country? Which gender?
Look outside, tell parents to use rishta aunties, matrimonial agencies. Could try online sites too.
Build your own network - friends, colleagues etc and also attend events etc. Why stick to the pure arranged marriage route? Surely, not running away but still making much more of a self effort will be easier.
Unfortunately, the way these things work for us - the skills, social setup, status etc of parents can have a bigger effect than the person themselves.
Re: If those around you are not in your league
That person should just take the best option available. Running away to find a new life should not be the answer.
Re: If those around you are not in your league
Running away is never the answer to problems.
It would be better if they find someone who is similar in background and potential. This way the person they marry will be more understanding of his/her family and their circumstances.
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By running away I dont mean eloping or leaving house, rather, shift to another country or place.
Re: If those around you are not in your league
That’s life bro face it or chase it your choice.
As far as rishta part or anything else is concerned you need to understand that if you desire something you don’t posses or see fitting in your situation but you still desire that you should know where to go.
Go pray Allah he’ll make the odds in your favor and give you what you want. What’s so difficult here???
Re: If those around you are not in your league
lol
Re: If those around you are not in your league
Find someone else in a similar situation..
Re: If those around you are not in your league
Don’t settle for less if you are well accomplished, the world is full of people. Expand your network–ask friends, family, dating websites maybe?