My husbands nanee passed away nearly two months ago… I am planning on sending him a card, as I know he has sent me one.
But I would also like to wish my sisters in-law and their hubbys and children via eid cards.
Please can someone tell me if there are any limitations in islam, with regards to celebrating the first Eid after a person has passed. I am aware that culturally there may be, but the family that I am sending the card to is one of my sister in laws, with whom my husbands grandmother lived, and they are religious, and thus, if there is no religious opposition to celebrating i.e. via eid card and eid money for their children, then I am sure they would be happy to recieve the card, but if it is inappropriate then I’d rather not send one…
I am sending all the cards that I make to each of my husbands sisters, to my husband first, but I want him to find out that I have made and sent them, when they get to him, not before… so I can’t ask him…
Obviously, if he thinks it’s inappropriate for any reason he’ll let me know… but I’d like to know beforehand anyway… so that I can make an informed decision myself.
Who knows how your husband and your sister in law's family will react to this act of kindness. For once take the surprise factor out of the scene and ask him directly.
This is not the time and occasion to take chances , if they get offended it will stick on your record forever so be careful and ask him and he will ask them if it is OK if you send those cards and eidi for kids.
As per Islam there is no ruling about not celebrating eid if someone died 2 months before eid. Islamic tradition is to mourn the dead for only three days and that too with extreme dignity.
I think I'll send him the cards (one for him and the others in a separate bundle, because he is sending me one; I really don't think he'll mind, and he definitely wont hold bad feelings even if he doesnt think we should give the others out) and then tell him to find out what mum and dad think. If they think it's not a good idea, we'll give them next Eid al Adha inshallah.
Also where has the custom of mourning for 40 days come from then? My husband was just yesterday saying how he agreed with the (he said "wahabi") 3 day mourning period.
**In Islam, subdued public mourning period is limited which is a few days. Eidain [two eids] are Allah's blessings. it's for living humans and it should be celebrated the way Islam sanctions. unnecessary pomp N show is not allowed in any way. moderate celebrations include going for prayers, visiting relatives and friends and exchanging gifts and on Baqra Eid sacrificing animal.
sending Eid Cards is kinda exchanging gifts in the form of well wishes and it's absolutely allowed in Islam.
***giving importance/signifying days, number of days, anniversaries of death is all cultural thing and has no place in Islam.*