If someone doesn't forgive you..

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If someone to whom you’ve hurt or did wrong in any ways, doesn’t forgive you, then will Allah forgive you for the hurt/wrong you’ve done to that person? I’ve heard that till the concerned person doesn’t forgive, Allah doesn’t forgive too for the hurt/wrong done. And if that person curses you, then the curses get fulfilled?

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Peace pinkyy,

I read in two different hadiths where it is written that 'A person (muslim) shouldn't remain angry from another person (muslim) for more than 3 days', and 'cursing another person (muslim) is disliked'.

On the day of Judgement Almighty Allah gives yours 'good deeds (naikiyan)' equal the hurt/damage caused to that person whom you ever hurted in the world. This is how the 'Haqooq-ul-Ibaad' will be done.

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Case: we realize our wrong doing and we ask forgiveness to those whom we have hurted with sincerity and also compensate any loss we may have caused to them and then also keep repenting to Allah.

Scenario 1: Person forgives us and hence, Allah will accept our forgiveness.

Scenario 2: Person does not forgive us even though we are sincere, then, Allah will become our witness in hereafter. We will still be forgiven after Allah will offer the rewards of forgiveness to the party we hurted and the hadith narrates that it will be accepted because to ignore such reward is impossible.

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Pinkyy: I believe what LK wrote, is right ... regarding compensating who we wronged with our good deeds on judgement day.

From what I understand: If Huquq-ul-Ibad is not fulfilled or if anyone is wronged by someone, than people wronged would get compensated on judgment day with good deeds of person who did wrong ... unless if the person wronged knowingly what is done to the person forgives.

If the person forgives for the sake of Allah, then Allah would compensate that person generously.

That means, if the person wronged forgives for sake of Allah (after knowing what wronged he was done and also knowing that person wronged is feeling guilty) than whoever done the wrong would not have to compensate the person wronged, still the person wronged would get compensated by Allah with (Sawab = good deeds) more than or at least equal to what the person would have got if that person had not forgiven.

[Note: Forgiving Zalim who has no guilt or remorse, is Zulum itself and promote further Zulum, so one cannot expect any sawab from Allah for such forgiveness].

That means if someone has done wrong in their huquq-ul-Ibad then they should get worried as people they wronged won’t be forgiving and generous on judgement day, when every soul would be worried about themselves.

Wrong towards others (Humans and even animals) are not like sin related to Huquq-ul-Allah as it is possible that Allah may forgive all sins related to Huquq-ul-Allah, even worse kind of sins (we do not know, but we cannot restrict or limit Allah’s generosity, compassion, mercy, and forgiveness ... regarding any matter ... and it is Iman that we should hope and expect the best from Allah for all).

Anyhow, way to compensate sins related to Huquq-ul-Ibad is, to earn enough good deeds from what we may be able to compensate who we wronged on judgment day and would still be left with enough good deeds to outweigh our bad deeds.

One way of earning good deeds is to try to compensate those we did wrong in this world with true heart, feel guilty and remorse from heart of our wrongs, try to get forgiveness from those we did wrong, and also pray to Allah that he forgives our sins including sins related to Huquq-ul-Ibad.

Obviously, Allah would not forgive the wrong we did, as it is matter between two of his creations and Allah being just would not do injustice to either, hence no forgiveness ... but ... In this way, it is possible that Allah may like our feelings of guilt and remorse, and also like our realisation and efforts to compensate what wrong we did to others, and due to this Allah may give us enough rewards (good deeds) that on judgment day we may be able to compensate the people we did wrong (even if they did not forgave us) and may even be left with extra good deeds.

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you can ONLY ask for forgiveness...you can NOT force it so let it go...ask for Allah's forgiveness...He may forgive you and in lieu of the person erred, Allah may reward him/her in such a way that on the Day of Judgement he/she will forgive you.

so, keep asking the person for his/her forgiveness but in the meantime concentrate on asking the forgiveness from Allah.

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Okay! You people have mentioned about punishments on the Day of Judgement. How about punishment in this world for the person who has done wrong or was not forgiven by the person to whom he/she has done wrong?

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While performing hajj Allah will forgive sins related to huquq-ul-ibad too......

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Is it? Even when the other person doesn't forgive you?

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Peace pinkyy,

One day on my way to home I helped an old man by replacing his car tire which was bursted. Few months later same thing happened with me although I can change my car tire by my own but that day many passer by asked me if I need any help or assistance. Suddenly I remembered that old man whom I helped without his asking and now same thing happened with me. Means If we help the creatures of Almighty Allah than surely, when we are in need, Almighty Allah will send someone for our help (put in his heart to help other).

Similarly, one who hurt others or do unjustice with them, will face it sooner or later, if Almighty Allah wished. He will face the same pain as he caused to other while hurting and will face same unjustice which he done to others. *I believe this happen in actuall life but some get astray from right path and some other repent on their wrong doing and seek forgivness.
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Peace ninja hattori,

Duty and rights comes in 'huquq-ul-ibad' not sin. Its like you was naughty in your classroom, eventually the teacher ignored (forgiven) your naughtyness and passed you because of your hard-working (repentanc and good deeds), but do u think your teacher can forgive you on behalf of one of you class-mate whom u ever hurted? Nahi na :)